#simp tools

I once worked with a lady that whenever you asked her how she was doing she would respond saying “busy”. In the beginning I believed her and at times I felt sorry for her BUT I later found out she was really lazy and was never really busy. She just liked the way it sounded.

My current life is so busy that many of times it is a blur - but this doesn’t always mean things are good. Yes you are supposed to be busy but you should never be that busy where you lose yourself, your friendships and/or your relationships. I remember when I was in a relationship I had to schedule time to hang out with him - this was because of poor organization and he was annoying in the end but you get the picture. While these past few months bought us some extra free time for people like me, I took that extra time and filled it up with projects that I always wanted to do but never had the time to actual do them. However, this time also bought must needed “me time”. I am now a frequent visitor to the park & I basically have a Soho House membership to my local coffee shop.

THE SLOW LIFE

I know you’ve heard the saying that in order for you to get over a situation you should make yourself busy. Well this is my way of dealing. My best projects and articles come from heartbreaks LOL. Do not follow me because I am a complete hot mess. While the fast pace is great the slow life is not so bad. There should be an equal balance of fast and slow within everyone’s life. When things are too fast you miss out on the little things. Yes, we are building and getting to the “bag” but you should not want to get there alone. Don’t associate slow with lazy. Slow just means you have balance.

CHANGE

Breaking habits are hard. People say if you stay consistent with something then it becomes a habit but that alone is really hard. I’ve tried to make it a habit to make my bed in the morning before anything and that has failed every single time. I’ve tried to complete all my work before 8pm to ensure I get some self-care time with myself - but my daily distractions prevent. Yes, organization is key like we and every other website says but ORGANIZATION IS HARD. The only thing that is consistent within my life is my morning coffee. I can’t even have consistent masturbation session but that is a totally different conversation.

Real change comes from actually seeing that you are missing out on things. Change comes from your friends not calling you anymore because they know you will curve. Change should be good because change means you learned how to do things and still enjoy life.

BUSY IS NORMAL AND OKAY - BUT WITH BALANCE

Yes, everyone has stuff going on but don’t forget your family, friends and most important yourself. Especially now, busy is the new normal. Compared to other generations, my generation is always busy because we are all trying to make it. While our grandparents and parents started families by 21 years old and by now were on the 4th child - many of us have taken a different approach and are chasing the money. I am us. While this is the new status quo - remember that the next day is not promised. Say yes to work but also say yes to the others things. It is important to plan for the future but also live in the moment.

I lost one of my closest aunts to Covid-19. The ironic part of the situation was I saw her exactly 1 week prior. The week before my aunt and cousin came into town and that caused everyone to come together. This wasn’t the same gathering, literally everyone came. I was exhausted from work and only planned to stay a few hours - I ended up staying two days. I didn’t know this was going to be the last time I would see my aunt. When she died all I could think was how happy I was that I actually saw her, talked to her and spent time with her. I miss you Mitch.

This isn’t supposed to be a sad article to tell you to get “unbusy” or to make you feel bad for being too busy. Remember that tomorrow really isn’t promised. You would hate to work so hard that you miss out on the little things. Your kids will not remember why you were not busy - they will only remember that you were not there.