Oh, geez, that sucks. If you donāt mind me asking, why do you feel so strongly against the other person?
Basically the person rubbed me the wrong way, tried to be theĀ āalpha dogā in a lot of ways, and when I put my foot down about a rule being broken, they turned it around on me, saying that I should have said something at the time the rule was broken (v. short: all three of us played together, without a condom, which was against a rule i set when husbot and I went open)
when the discussion re: this event came up, they used things I had confided in them in attempts to be accepting in my face, triggered a massive anxiety attack in me, and refused to back down from their position ofĀ āI am right, you are wrong, and you should feel bad for trying to set boundaries like this when it isnāt your relationshipā