hi lately i’ve really become obsessed with scripting and i keep forgetting that it’s actually real. i just see it as some other ‘reality’ that does exist but i don’t see myself actually there, only in my head. do you have any advice on how to fall back in love with shifting or something along those lines?
well, this is often a multifaceted issue, if it's really an issue at all. my initial question would be "why do you want this to change?" what are you hoping the result would be? are you trying to be happier, to shift easier, to clear your mind, etc. figuring out what your goal is or what result you want, and then consider whether doing those things will actually help achieve it.
a) if you're thinking it'll make you shift, i'd remind that there are plenty of people who are in love with shifting, do think of themself as real in other realities, and don't obsess over scripting and still don't shift. thinking of these things as being the things that stop you from shifting might not be accurate. some people don't even believe shifting is even real, and then shift. some people are obsessed with their scripts and shift all the time. some people who have shifted fall out of love with shifting. basically, anything along these lines that you think is what's "holding you back," isn't necessarily actually stopping you from shifting.
b) if you're scripting without thinking of that reality as real, or of yourself as really there, then my question would be: do you actually want to shift there? like, deep reflection for a moment, do you really want to be real in that reality? people have created self inserts and OCs and lore and fanfictions and fanart and written self indulgent stories and daydreamed probably since we were capable of thought, and there's nothing wrong with that. if that's the part making your brain happy, and that's the part that interests you, just do that. you don't have to shift there. it doesn't have to be real to be worthy of your time or interest.
c) if you're hoping to be happier or have a clearer mind, or this obsession with scripting is getting in the way of your day to day life, that's a different issue. humans are prone to escapism, especially when they lack other coping mechanisms. escapism isn't inherently bad, used a healthy amount it can reduce stress, relax, rejuvenate. but taken to an extreme, it interferes with responsibilities and relationships, or can be otherwise harmful. if you're using scripting or obsessing over shifting as a method of maladaptive daydreaming, or if it's a facet of dissociation and depersonalization, i'd recommend asking a professional or trusted adult for help with developing other coping skills (or help reducing stressors in your life.) the best way to reduce unhealthy coping mechanisms is to 1) have a healthy replacement, and 2) reduce exposure to the thing you're needing to cope with.
