It's okay to have emotional swings.
It is natural for humans to have emotions.
Even if you are upset or angry, you swing supplely, and aim to be "steadfastness", to get back to normal again with ease.
People have got to live in a 'sea of strangers', which naturally causes stress and conflicts. Many people may believe that it is better to be emotionally unaffected, but it is natural for emotions to waver and be disturbed. The important thing is not to get caught up in or swept away by the tide. That is, as long as your emotions do not spill out of the vessel of the 'heart'.
Steadfastness does not mean a mind that does not move like a rock no matter what, or a mind that is as quiet as the surface of the water, which does not ripple at all. Without feelings, it is as if you were dead.
Steadfastness is a mind that may sway but does not overflow; a mind that may waver like a balance toy, but its axis is fixed on one point.
Nine out of ten emotional problems are a matter of mindset, a matter of how you look at things. Once you have a correct perception of the situation, you are not at the mercy of your emotions, even if they are disturbed.
When you are caught up in a tide of emotions, something inside you is misjudging. Misperceptions may be caused by wanting to protect one's position and pride. Or perhaps because you are preoccupied with a single concept. In order to reveal it, it is necessary to technically stop the emotions at once.
If you know the technique of shutting off the flow of emotions once they are in place, it is possible to cultivate a steadfastness that will return even if you sway like a balance toy.
