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If it helps on reconciling what Sounds and Feels weird about RSD, I don't read or hear many real clinicians discussing it outside specific Pop Psych resources because... everything about it is covered by Emotional Dysregulation, a widespread neurodivergence symptom. Resources on *that* tend to offer a lot more practical coping help, and feel a lot less like it's telling you you're cursed to sad snowflake disorder and fawning. Mileage, of course, may vary.
That does help a great deal actually, not even mainly because it reframes it conceptually away from Sensitive Snowflake Disease (which RSD isnāt! I know that! I just suck at internalizing it when itās me!). I know at least a little about emotional dysregulation already from having an Autistic brother, so thereās that, but also that hooks the RSD aspect into a much larger struggle I have with negative emotions and depression.Ā
One of the reasons I often donāt consume new media until itās old media with spoilers and plot summaries, and certainly one of the reasons Iāve had a hard no on apocalyptic/dystopian media for over a decade, is that I have no off switch for Sad. You know how people talk about listening to a sad song and having a cry andĀ āgetting it all outā? Thatās not something I experience. If Iām sad about something, Iām sad about it for a really long time and it impacts my quality of life. Same with anger, and humiliation. I pretty well know what will cause those emotions at this point, at least most of the time, so I can minimize exposure, but Iāve never had great success with resolution -- Iām able to thinkĀ āI donāt want to feel this anymoreā but not able to do much about it.Ā But if thatās tied into a biological inability to properly regulate emotion, then at least I have some new angles of attack on how to solve the problem, instead of just avoidance and repression.Ā
To be clear, I am not blaming things I say or do on emotional dysregulation; Iām a whole grown man and I take responsibility for my actions. But itās a relief to know that this is at least in part chemical, not a flaw of personality. Something new to research, anyway, and I think itās probably easier to separate the wheat from the chaff researching emotional dysregulation than RSD.Ā













