#self-brain surgery

I'm hoping some of this will help others, as well as, myself. Have you been in a situation where you are always stuck in high gear, always being reactive? Been in a relationship where you don't know who is coming through the door, the nice version or the not so nice version of a person? So you wonder if what they are telling you about yourself is true? You wonder if what the internet tells you about yourself is true? Your brain says it is, but is it? This a way to question the lies your brain tells you, the internet tells you, and other people tell you?