I totally agree with the above statement. And i think the major issue is POV.

POV or point of view, helps us understand the perspective of any thing and what do I mean by that is, when we are shown this particular thing in the media we are shown it from male's POV. We are shown his struggles, his falling in love, his hardship and the girl being rude, being difficult. We are shown things that makes us sympathize with the man chasing the woman. And lets be real, all of us are hopeless romantic and still believes in the "romance" between Romeo and Juliet, so we believes the guy who is truly, eternally in love with her.

And wanna hear the best part, the girl always ALWAYS returns his feelings. So this narrative that the girl is just doing it and doesn't really mean it solidifies and further prove the hypothesis.

And when we see it in real life, we do not think too much about it cuz our arguments and questions are already solved thanks to countless sources present in our day to day life. From anime to movies to TV shows to novels, whatever and whichever media you choose there is always going to be a genre which reiterate this narrative again and again and again.

Yours truly,