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Rodriguez, John Carlo D. 161713

When I showed weakness, my parents usually told me it was not manly. When I cried, they would say, “‘Wag kang umiyak, lalaki ka.” When I overreact to something, they say “‘Wag kang ganyan. Mga bakla lang gumagawa niyan.” When I would throw tantrums as a child, they would say only girls are allowed to be sensitive. To sum up these words they told me, they basically said it was girly to be weak. As a result, I ended up concealing a lot of my interests from them. In a way, it influenced my openness towards people. I feel that it is not as easy for me to open up to people because of these statements I heard growing up. This can be connected to something Dr. Grovetant discovered in his research. He and his colleagues conducted a study wherein he analyzed the effect of one’s different interactions on the development of a person’s identity. Results stated that mother-son and father-son had the biggest effect on the subject’s development. In other words, interactions in the family have the biggest impact on a person’s growth. This proves that the most basic unit of a community has the biggest impact on the development of a person. The impact of this statement in my life can also be connected to the psychosocial stages of Erikson, specifically the stage of inferiority versus industry. It is in this stage that a child learns to tame his imagination and impulses, and please the people around him. If adults especially parents support the child's efforts, his sense of competence develops. In the event that adults do not support the child, developing feelings of inferiority may be possible. My difficulty opening up to others may be attributed to this psychosocial stage being disrupted and uncompleted in my life. Because of the insufficient support my parents had for certain things I did, it might have caused a complication in my development. Finally, one other concept my experience can be connected with is gender stereotypes. According to our lecture, society tends to give men a stereotype as being hunters,powerful and demanding. This view given by society might have influenced then and given them that mindset. If it weren’t for the friends and teachers I had growing up, I might have ended up developing the same mindset as my parent. These peers are what taught me that deviance is a what makes a person beautiful and not simply conforming to the general consensus of what beauty is. Turning 20 this year, I have learned to be more understanding of everything. In this instance, I learned to be more understanding of my parents. I figured that no matter how skewed their views may be, they only wanted the best for me.

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I am not excited for the SA21 trip to Nueva Ecija this weekend. I mean, yeah it's supposed to be fun and all, but I'm just not feeling the excitement when:

I'm trading this over a weekend at Macau with my family. 

I practically don't know anyone in our class..except for like my blockmates and other coursemates and some people I recognize.... but really aside from that, nil. I don't even know my seatmates to the left.

I.... just don't feel like it.

I could've opted for the research paper instead of this trip, but that's too much of a hassle for me this summer....

I know this could be like a time for our class to bond, but .... but... but... still.