Jameela Jamil just came out as queer but people are already calling her bi Like can we not use words to describe her sexuality that she didn't use herself? She might be bi but until she uses it herself her label is queer k thinx
oof youâve just given me an excuse to rant lmao
iâm not surprised people are calling her anything other than the label she claimed for herself. although i havenât seen people outright call her bi, i have seen a lot of people claiming the queerphobia sheâs been getting is biphobia, because itâs also applicable to bi people. people have been saying she canât be queer because sheâs dating a guy, which bi (and other mspec) people experience, but she never claimed the bi label, so why is it so hard to just label it queerphobia? especially considering how much literal bigoted and ignorant shit sheâs getting about identifying specifically as queer. itâs likeâŚ.just because something can be applicable to another group, doesnât mean it always has be named in regard to that group, especially when the specific context is not about that group.
and tbh, she didnât just come out. sheâs been saying she isnât straight for a while now. this was, as she called it, her âofficialâ coming out. because aside from the valid criticism of her being on a show thatâs about a specific queer culture she isnât part of and doesnât know anything about, there were and still are people questioning her queerness and right to call herself queer and be in queer spaces. which made her feel pressured or forced to officially come out. even though she has said in the past that she isnât straight, one time was even in response to someone assuming she was straight and complaining about her calling another woman (who turned out to not be straight either)her wife.
this whole situation (not the valid criticism of her being on the show) is just steeped in the inherently problematic nature of criticizing someone through a lens of their presumed heterosexuality. people need to stop assuming everyone is non-queer until officially stated otherwise. attacking them for the language they use or the places they go or things they take part in because you assume a lack of official coming out means they arenât queer is horrible. queer people donât need to announce their queerness in order to be allowed to live their life and express their queerness how theyâre comfortable.
it reminds me of that song a while back, i think rita ora was one of the artists? it was something about girls getting drunk and kissing girls? and everyone was mad about straight girls making girls kissing girls into a frivolous things straight girls do to impress or arouse guys. and like, feel however you want about the song, but most, if not all, the artists on that song were forced to come out and explain their sexuality and experiences to justify having done the song. which is fucked.
whew a lot of that had nothing to do with your message lmao. anyways. i hate how queer people are treated on these hellsites. someone says theyâre queer, theyâre fucking queer. period. thatâs it. stop questioning them and forcing labels.