I am a completely different person to how I was a year ago. Worse in so many ways better in so many more.

I keep tumbling in and out of love with myself. The process of self-healing takes much longer than I thought it would. But I know that I will get there one day.

And that was your problem. You only ever loved the idea of love.

Give yourself room to make mistakes, and to fail. Accept that some days will be harder than others, some nights longer—but as long as you give yourself room to be human and make mistakes, you will make it through. You will make it through.

Stop the comparison—with strangers or your family and friends. You're not in the same place as them because you're not supposed to be. Both your journeys are unique and meant individually for each of you. Stopping comparison will remove a lot of negative thoughts about self-worth that you're likely to adopt.

As yourself the difficult questions: What do I want from life? Am I happy? What could make me happier? Try to find out what you want, and what your purpose is; each day is a lot brighter when you have a purpose. Understand that 'no' means 'no', and it doesn't come with apologies or a justification; if you said no, stick by it. Don't apologize for speaking the truth—your honesty and feelings are valid.