#roleplaying psa

In the past and from what I’ve seen, some people are too afraid to actually communicate with their partners and instead send in their complaints via anonymous ask form. 

NOT examples of what this post is about:

Anonymous ask: Hey, I’m a bit shy about interacting with you and I’m anxious about meeting new RP partners in general. But I was interested in your blog. I have a fantasy rp multimuse blog that I think you might be interested in

Anonymous ask: I’m a little intimidated by your blog but I still really wanna interact with you, I’m just scared I might be annoying you

Anonymous ask: Hi we’re already interacting but could I ask for you to tag (trigger)? Thanks

These asks are anonymous just because the sender wants to be. There is an option for the sender to directly message the person, but anonymity can help ease anxiety and fear when talking to someone. Directly sending a message to the person can also work, but there wouldn’t be that much of a change besides someone being anonymous.

Examples that ARE what this post is about:

Anonymous ask: You said that you never deny ships with anybody but you did it with me lol

Anonymous ask: Thanks for ghosting me

Anonymous ask: Can you actually reply to my thread and my starter instead of ignoring them?

The reasons why these asks are inappropriate anonymously are because they’re

a. Private matters to be dealt with

b. Mysterious and confusing when the sender’s identity is concealed

c. Possibly distressing when the asks are vague

If you have a personal issue with an RP partner, you have to privately talk to them about it. If you hide behind an anonymous face and send them an ask about their issues, they could guess it was you, but unrelated people will see the ask, and unnecessary drama may occur.

If you have a personal issue with an RP partner, please directly talk to them about it. They might not even be aware that they’re doing anything wrong, and if you directly and cleanly inform them yourself instead of vaguely sending in an ask about it, both of you can work on the issue together. And if it doesn’t work out? Leave the situation, stop being partners, etc. etc. 

Roleplaying is a HOBBY. Hobbies are supposed to be something that YOU enjoy. If you aren’t enjoying roleplaying, there’s NO POINT and you need to either take a break altogether or change whatever is causing the burnout.

Yes, we can all get angry/upset at times and want to vent about it. But when it’s about a certain person? Maybe something they’ve done to upset you? Annoy you? You are allowed to vent about it in private as much as a grey area that is for some, but posting vagues about it in public is not advisable.

Why? Because others who are not even involved might look at that vague, and ask themselves: “Oh? Is this about me?” It can make people feel horrible. It can make people feel like they’ve done something wrong when they haven’t at all. Some might come to you, and actually ask you if the post is about them, and that they are sorry if it is (if they had need to be sorry about anything). So you see, vague posts can have consequences. You can make someone either really upset or really angry towards you. You’ll get that reputation as word will go around that you vague post about people. People will literally say “Hey, I think this person is vague posting about me.” You will lose partners as so many have it in their rules that they will unfollow over vague posting.

Vague posting honestly solves nothing, it can only make the issue worse for you. If you have an issue with an individual, then you should say to them, you should tell them to stop doing what they are doing that upsets you if it’s something personal between the both of you. Learn to say no. If it’s a theme they roleplay? Don’t vague about it. Ask them to tag it, ninety-nine percent of the time, people will tag it if they are asked. But if you make a vague about it that goes a bit like this “Gross, I just saw someone roleplaying one of my triggers.”, then a whole lot will look at this post, and might think it’s about them. Also, quite a few that do this also unfollow the person they are posting about but decide to do it anyway. Unfollowing is a good move by itself if it’s to get you away from something that makes you uncomfortable, most will understand that, but unfollowing then making a vague post? It’s uncalled for to be honest.

I really don’t care if you repost my memes, answers, edits, OOC nonsense, etc. However, unless it is an open starter, do not reblog and reply to any of my roleplays unless you are part of them. That is just rude and disrespectful to everyone involved. It will result in a single final warning, and a second offense will be an immediate block.

while roleplay and writing is about having fun and all that jazz, and by all means take the time that you need for anything, and i would never rush anyone for a reply. i’m happy to wait. but try some communication with your partners. i’ve tried to be communicative with people, and it takes two to tango. one person shouldn’t be the one to message all the time (or send memes,etc...)

also one other note that i have is that if someone does take a break. for whatever reason, they don’t owe you anything. if they left unexpectedly, they might have had some shit going on, or no access to a device or internet to get onto the site. and even so, they’re allowed to take time off from this site for any reason that they have.

this community is becoming more and more toxic what with some people thinking that they’re better than others, or acting off with someone. if someone’s upset you then you should tell them, if you want to drop a thread tell your partner. communication is key.

hello !   i quickly wanted to bring up awareness on something in my own community but i’m sure this can be applied to any.  as you can see by the header, my message is rather simple:   if you’re using someone’s please remember to credit them.    but even more importantly ask them for permission to use their art.   some artists in the community don’t want their art used for icons and write that in the description of a lot of art that they post, and if you do ask, most will be okay with you making icons from their art as long as you credit.

it’s fairly simple, send them an ask and be nice about it !!    i’ve done it numerous times myself.  but i will admit, there was a time when i was caught off guard and felt rather guilty when someone asked me to stop using their art because i forgot to ask.   it’s not a pretty feeling and i don’t want to be that repeat offender.   it’s just rude.    and i will admit mistakes happen, but i’ve seen theme backgrounds, headers, but the most common offenders are icons being used and put up without any form of credits in sight.   it’s important to credit the artist, let people know where the work came from ( unless you drew everything yourself ).   i’ve even seen it done with commissioned works for others which is a little unnerving since that art wasn’t drawn for you.   link their blog urls in your rules, even better, link the posts with the artist’s drawings themselves to let people reblog it,  or have a credits page— something— anything  !!   

and if you don’t want to go through the trouble of asking and crediting, then here’s your very simple solution— just don’t use their art.     this is a rule i had to get used to a while back, and it’s a rule anyone can follow.   so i urge you, go talk to the artists and ask permission, or if there’s repeat offenders then ask them to credit stuff.   and well.. if that don’t work you can always contact the artist themselves.  

I am a story-teller.

What does this mean? It means I am a role-player who likes to work based off the actions and responses of your character. For example; I create a fork in the road and your character can go left or right. I strongly suggest in the description for your character to take the right path. This does not mean they have to take the right path.

It just means that I have centered my scenario on the right path but if your character takes the left I will make a whole new one that is just as eventful. I am not trying to control your character but rather give them a choice. If their path is barred they have a whole world to explore so please do not feel like I’m saying they absolutely have to make the choice I’m suggesting. That’s all it is is a suggestion.

I’m perfectly okay with your character making a different choice or just heading out of the area altogether and adventuring elsewhere. As a matter of fact, I highly encourage this. Think of this kind of writing as my narrative nudge to “ hey! We could do this! Or if your character does something unexpected I have even more to work with. Go for it! Surprise me!”

I am going for the exact opposite of control with this style of writing. I want your character to decide what they are going to do so I can build the story around them. I am all about dynamic worlds and interesting events triggered as reactions to your character’s actions. I don’t just want a role-play between two characters I want your character to shine and for you as the mun to be immersed in their world. I encourage you to have your character respond how they please to these scenarios (the right path, left path, or even the surprise middle path you just made!) so you can make this world with me so I don’t end up making it all by myself.