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A week ago, I had a heart-wrenching encounter at a bus stop in Waialae. There, I witnessed the harsh reality of the homeless crisis that plagues our society, and the complete lack of action from our government. As I waited for my bus, I overheard a young man engaging in a heated argument with a homeless individual who had made a makeshift bed on the sidewalk.The young man, genuinely concerned,…

Looking back on my journey, I realize now that last July 2023 marked the lowest point in my battle with depression. The seventh month of mourning the loss of a loved one had left me questioning the very purpose of my existence. Determined to find healing, I set my sights on Honolulu, Hawaii, believing it would be the solution to my problems. And indeed, while I was there last April, I felt…

In a private chat group of 20 diverse psychologists, which I’m a member of, the longevity of love relationships in today’s world has been a topic of intense debate. With some members, including myself, sharing their experiences of divorce or widowhood and others claiming to maintain happy marriages, the discussion delves into the complex dynamics of relationships in the modern era. Amidst the…

Yes, crying is a weakness. This is what I used to believe. In life, we often grow up with certain beliefs and perceptions that shape our understanding of emotions. For many of us, crying was seen as a sign of weakness. We were taught to hold back our tears, to hide our vulnerability, and to suppress our emotions. Maybe you, like me, grew up surrounded by strong-willed individuals who rarely…

You often hear from Psychologists of the term Emotional Independence, but do not actually fully know what it is. Are you emotionally independent? If your answer is, ” I’m not sure.” Read on… Emotional dependence is when our emotions are influenced by others, making it challenging to feel in control. Achieving emotional independence is important for good mental health, although it can be…

Have you ever pondered the significance of someone’s eyes? As a practicioner in the principles of evolutionary psychology, I place great importance on our inherent capacity to observe and analyze. Whether I am engaged in direct eye contact or reviewing photographs about a client, I can assess various elements. Do they meet my gaze directly or avert their eyes? Are there certain gestures or a…

As I sit in my new place on this Sunday night, building my personal website, my mind wandered to the people and the communities I have helped over the years. It has been a long and fulfilling journey, and I am inspired by the thought that each one of us is born with a purpose. I firmly believe that every individual has a “god-given talent” to help and serve those around them. It may be…