Discussion Group Norms For Dealing With Triggers
[Note: I am difficult to trigger, have never had cause to avoid triggers, and have never participated in a discussion group that used trigger warnings. This is purely theoretical.]
Iâve been thinking about how trigger warnings can be incorporated into irl discussion groups without seriously limiting the range of discussion or the ability of various people to participate. I donât really have any experience in this area, but here are the norms that came to mind when I considered the problem.
Firstly, the members of the discussion group are polled to find out if any of them experience serious distress upon hearing about certain topics. The group compiles a list of these topics (without names of participants attached).
The day (or a few days) before the actual meeting is held, an email is circulated about the topic. For example: âTomorrow we will be discussing limits to development in Sub-Saharan Africa. We will be considering subproblems such as...â. This email also lists which triggers the conversation will likely involve (eg: war & contagious disease) and which ones it wonât (eg: rape, suicide, spiders, & involuntary confinement).
Anyone who wants to avoid discussions about war and germs can do so. If they generally hate talking about those things, but feel up to it that day, they can still show up. No one ever has to say why they didnât show up to a given meeting.
Assuming a two hour meeting: for the first hour, everyone discusses the topic as they see fit, but avoids the excluded triggers (in this case: rape, suicide, spiders, & involuntary confinement). After an hour, everyone takes a break for a few minutes. Anyone who wants to leave for any reason can do so. After the break, discussion resumes, but now no one needs to avoid the second set of triggers. Maybe the people who are triggered by rape and involuntary confinement leave during the break, while the ones who are triggered by suicide and spiders decide to stay. Itâs wholly up to them.
I think this does a reasonable job of finding a middle ground between restricting conversation too much to be worthwhile and excluding people who canât function around triggering conversations.
On the one hand, people who are triggered by things tangential to the topic at hand are able to participate without the fear that conversation will accidentally veer in the direction of something they canât deal with. On the other, if anyone finds during the first hour that, yes, rape is relevant and important to this discussion, they can bring it up during the second half. Conversation space can be fully explored. Additionally, it acknowledges that some triggers are unavoidable if you want a constructive discussion of certain topics. The example topic couldnât be discussed without mentioning war, so anyone who was triggered by that had the option of not showing up to begin with.
There are other features of this I also find important. Firstly, itâs explicit. No one has to wonder during the discussion whether mentioning a deadly accident will trigger someone and then second-guess doing so: The list is right there. Secondly, itâs confidential. Someone who has extreme arachnophobia might be embarrassed to admit it, because itâs not considered ârealâ or âseriousâ. Without the option of confidentiality, they might decide to just not join the discussion group, losing valuable perspectives. Finally, itâs tailored to the needs of the group. If no one is triggered by deadly accidents, they donât go on the list. If someone is triggered by involuntary confinement, it does go on the list. The group warns for exactly what its members need.
Feel free to point out problems, suggest improvements, copy/alter for your own purposes, or tell me that this is so last season and someone else already thought of it.