#release control

QUOTE by Lindsey Eryn of PEPTALKS™ APP

IG: @lindseyeryn, @peptothetalk

Step 1: The Power of Releasing Control

In the context of emotional wounds, especially with family (like your mom or sister), control often plays a huge role in the emotional dynamics. Control can be an external force, but sometimes, we also hold onto it internally, thinking that we have to control things in order to feel safe, loved, or in charge of our life.

Let’s break down why control (or the need for control) can impact your healing process.

Why do you feel the need to control situations with people who have hurt you?

Are you afraid of being hurt again?

Do you feel like if you don’t act a certain way, you won’t be accepted or loved?

Do you fear being abandoned or misunderstood?

Write down any feelings you associate with the need for control. Example: “I control my emotions because I’m afraid of being rejected if I show them.”

Step 2: God’s Truth About Control

Here’s where God’s truth gently disrupts this need for control:

You don’t have to force things to happen for your good. God is in control. (Psalm 46:10)

Your value is not based on anyone’s approval or opinion. (Romans 8:1-2)

God will never leave or abandon you—no matter what anyone else does. (Hebrews 13:5)

You can release control because God has perfect control over your life. (Jeremiah 29:11)

Step 3: Practice Surrender—Letting Go of Control

Take a few moments now to release the control you’ve held onto. I want you to picture it in your mind—the things, thoughts, or people you’ve tried to control to keep yourself safe or loved.

Imagine placing them all at the feet of Jesus. You don’t need to hold them anymore.

Repeat this prayer:

"Jesus, I release my need for control. I trust you with my emotions, my relationships, and my future. I choose to surrender to Your will. I don’t need to hold onto fear, rejection, or guilt anymore. You have it all in Your hands. In Jesus' name, Amen."

Step 4: Breaking Free from People-Pleasing and Reclaiming Your Voice

Many emotional wounds, especially those involving family, come from people-pleasing—wanting to keep the peace at all costs, even if it means suppressing your own voice, desires, or needs.

How does people-pleasing show up in your life?

Do you shrink back when you want to speak up?

Do you say “yes” to things you don’t really want to do, just to avoid confrontation?

Do you over-apologize or over-explain yourself?