02.15.17 | Voices Carry (Warning Long Read) • I was working on the #WhenSilenceSpeaks writing challenge by @ggreneewrites and as expected I fell behind. I still plan to finish the challenge and using the prompts to write nightly. • In an effort to catch up I landed on the prompt #VoicesCarry and immediately I thought about the moment I was having right then. My 4 year was throwing a tantrum over some ridiculous candy she got from school. I caught myself yelling at her to be quiet and had to walk away and tell my husband to handle it. He isn't a teller and very laid back. I went in my room to meditate and calm down because I hate yelling at the kids. I hated getting yelled at as a kid. It only made me cry more. After 2, yes 2 guided meditations I felt better. She was calm and I was too. She climbed in my bed and went to sleep. I picked up my journal and this prompt had me thinking about what just happened. • As a parent, I don't want to parent through intimidation it doesn't help situations. My relationship with my oldest is great because of transparency and honesty. I don't want my kids to fear me to the point that they are scared to come to me when they are upset or hurting. I want to be that safe place that allows them to be open. At 4 years old I can't talk to her like I do with my 20 year old. I can't have completely logical conversations with her because logically not eating candy before dinner makes no sense to her. So I need a new approach. Still working on that. Pray for me. • I just want to remind you to be mindful of what your words, demeanor and actions say to your children. Also, the behaviors they will learn and believe to be acceptable. Your voice carries intention, love, hate, anger, disappointment, approval, rejection, life and so many other things that are absorbed by their little brains and hearts. When you feel your self becoming overwhelmed try to take a moment and step away from the situation. I know I am not the only mom or parent that has these moments. • #RaisingLittleHumans #MommyMoments #TruthMoment #HonestlyParents #meditatedaily #MomLife #RealLife #motherhoodrising #oureverydaymoments #realparentshit #realparents
