Why is "are you full *insert African nationality*? You look blasian/mixed race" considered a compliment? Why is it constantly "maaate, you know I'm not trying to get any darker!" or "I don't want to get too dark"? -what is "too dark" anyway? If we all honestly thought about it, I'm sure we've had one of these thoughts at leastttt once before. I believe there is a root to all thoughts and actions whether we realise it or not and I'd kinda like to understand the root of this one. Once a few years back, I was playfully arguing with a "friend" of mine and we were calling eachother names back and forth. I called him skinny, he called me butch and we went on. I insulted his lips, he said "well you're soo dark!" And I looked at him waiting for the punchline so I could retaliate but apparently that was it. That was supposedly the insult, isn't that cray? It still makes me giggle thinking about it. ...So what is so wrong with being dark skinned? Why is being darker considered a bad thing? Maybe not outrightly so, but deep in lots of people's subconsciouses. And no, this isn't a "dark skinned girl trying to defend the beauty of dark skinned women across the world"-post. It's a "why should it have to be defended in the first place?"-post. Why is Lupita N'yongo (aka Lupi because in my mind, we're pals) always "a dark skinned beauty", why can't she just be beautiful? No one ever looks at Beyoncé and says "well damn, that's a lightskinned beauty"?...why? Why is Lupi's beauty so tied to her "dark skin" and Beyoncé's just allowed to be beautiful? (I know not everyone think's Lupi's pretty but I just used her as an example) Why do males walk into a party and go "who's that lightie?"... Hell, why do lighties get a name and chocolaties don't?- Yes, I just gave us a name cause we should have one too, don't you think? Lol I'm being silly, but I hope you see my point somewhere in there. A whole lot of why's, not enough of an attention span lol. There are sooo many more why's. I can't answer a lot of my questions however I do think it's something we need to think about. Really truly think about in order to find the root and then sort it out because it's messed up. In the meantime and forevermore, please please please don't tell me I'm "pretty for a darkskinned girl" or say "she's ugly for a lightie". You either find us attractive or you don't, leave our skin tones out of it.
