i need people to be more okay with transharmfuls being nice. being fun. being whimsical. liking cute things. being good people. caring for others.
being transharmful isnt always towards everyone around you. we can love people too. we can be affectionate and kind and loving just as much as everyone else.
and we are just as deserving of love and affection as transharmed or other transid users. not all of us are big scary standoffish people.
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to further deepen monika/jay's doc. and yes, he permitted minors to post nsfw things of themselves.
oh and, yes, i was the one who nuked the server because i could and since we're planning on leaving, i don't want my host's effort in revamping the server to make it actually nice to be taken for granted any further. here's some more screenshots within the server before i nuked it.
- yes, unfortunately we were staff but thanks to that and others, we were able to gather much information.
- another thing to add, is the fact that the video is of a chrono14 y/o and monika is chrono21 (if we recall correctly, 20+ for sure). they didn't consent, nor were they comfortable on top of being in a relationship that monika knows about.
Ignore the fact I accidentally posted this on my blog instead of the radqueer tumblr community-
@feroxanima1 This is a post meant to answer your questions since a comment has a character limit!
Hello, hello! At your service! I won't be able to answer everything, but here are the important parts!! (^.^)
(I also admire the fact you are trying to educate yourself from both sides before being an asshole to either)
"While it supports paraphiles, many of those are pro contact and actively seek victims."
This is half-true. Yes, we do support all paraphilias as we support all identities, but that doesn't mean we are against consent. The entire premise of Radqueer-ness is that although we accept any identity, we are completely against abuse and nonconsentual harm! Pro-contact and anti-contact honestly mean different things to different people. Some think of it as sexual contact, some as just general contact. To put it simply, we do not accept MAPs who rape toddlers, but we do accept MAPs who do not plan on hurting anyone despite being in general contact with kids. That is to say, there will definitely always be bad apples in any community, meaning there are deffinitely some individuals who do seek victims. We do not like those apples.
"It's beyond the line of social norms to the point of being harmful. Such as people transitioning to be disabled."
While yes, some do transition into being disabled, it isn't inherently harmful. This might sound crazy to say, but this is consensual harm. If they are aware of the risks, they are aware of what they do and don't want, and they accept these conditions... then so what if they want to transition? If they really want it, why shouldn't they? Telling a transabled person that they cannot transition because they don't "know what it's actually like to be disabled" (which is bullshit because tansabled β able-bodied) is like telling a transfem person that they don't "know what it's actually like to fight misogyny".
"It actively encourages others to accept or express their paraphilia."
Yes. We do encourage others to accept who they are. Why wouldn't we? Darkshipping is fictional, and if tagged properly, it is harmless. I would much prefer someone darkships to vent and let their urges subside in a safe space than them prompting to actually noncon hurts others. As for the expression... It is just the expression of attraction. Expressing your paraphilic attraction is just like expressing queer attraction. The only difference is that paraphilic attraction is less accepted and more "out there" compared to queer attraction. This is because, AND THIS IS IMPORTANT... Attraction does not equal action.
"If there are any other common misconceptions that I missed, feel free to tell me about them and explain them."
"All raqueers are pedophiles!" Is a common one. It is illogical and false. First off, not all radqueers are pedos, there is zero evidence saying that we are. Second, using pedo and predator interchangeably is stupid as most predators are not pedos and most pedos are not predators. Pedophilia is an attraction, being a predator is a disgusting action.
"Trace/Transrace is racist!!" I don't even know where antis got this from. Just because you feel like you should be a different race doesn't mean you hate the race you were born into. Once again, gonna use Transgender as an example: A transman isn't misogynistic for transitioning, and a transwoman is not misandric for transitioning.
"AAMs (adult-attracted-minors) are being groomed!!" This is another common misconception. There's a lot of minors in the community, and a lot identify with the AAM label. That does not mean they are being groomed. They are simply expressing attraction to older people, this doesn't need any influence just like being lesbian doesn't need any influence. An AAM doesn't have to be groomed by an adult to be AAM. A lebsian doesn't have to be groomed by a woman to be lesbian. I also see that a lot of antis who use this claim have the "17? Oh you're so innocent! 18? PEDO PEDO PEDO" mentality. That is very wrong and simply stupid. You aren't all innocent and sweet all your life and you don't suddently turn into a grooming predator the second you turn 18.
I hope I answered your questions with enough clarity!! ^^
I am so tired... I want to be open about who I am. I want to be open and talk about how I cope with things. But I can't. I have no where to talk about it. Discord restricts me every time. Antis on Tumblr will term my account. I just want to talk about things I struggle with. I just want to talk about how I have found coping mechanisms. I just want to talk about how I found ways to be a safe person. But I can't. I can't talk about how my wife and I genuinely believe we should have siblings. I can't talk about how he helps me cope with my paraphilias. I can't talk about how I am a paraphile and how that interacts with my job. I can't talk about how I have found coping mechanisms. I can't talk about how I have found ways to be a safe person to those around me. How is that wrong? How is it wrong that I want to help others find ways to cope? How is my personal relationship with a consenting adult is dangerous? How is my personal relationship with a consenting ADULT is disgusting?
It.. almost hurts more that I can't be open about it. It makes me feel dangerous. It makes me feel like I'll never be able to escape. It makes me feel like I will inevitably do something terrible. It.. makes me question what the point of me doing all the work is. What's the point of I'll be seen as dangerous anyway? What's the point if people will assume I'm a predator anyway? What's the point? (The point is not hurting another being and being someone safe)
PARAPHILE β PREDATOR
Being a Paraphile does not equal being a Predator. Paraphiles are not inherently predators.
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I go by any name except my birth name, call me whatever
I'm a genderfaun neoboy, my main pronouns are star/star's, they/them, it/it's, pup/pup's, shrike/shrike's, xe/xir, and he/him. But you can call me any non fem ones
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Proshipper and dark shipper (oh no, boo fuckin hoo)
Follow your own dni
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anti's are actually fucking cruel. I got told to go fucking overdose again because I said I was transage and i was into hypnosis. like I don't want to be an adult. I don't want to mature. I just want to be who I was. I'm sorry for existing I can't fucking help my attraction to shit. I'll just try to fucking kill myself since that's what people want.
I JSUT FOUND OUT AN OLD FRIEND OF OURS WHO BLOCKED US OUTTA NOWHERE LAST YEAR WITH NO REASON CHANGED AMD BECAME A RADQUEER AT THAT TIME??? THEY COULD VE JUST TOLD US BRO I LOVE RADQUEERS ππππππ NOOO FRIENDDDDDD NOW IM EVEN MORE SAD THAT THEY LEFT I HATE EVERYTHING
[CG] : I GENUINELY HATE MY LIFE. WHY ARE PEOPLE SO AGAINST MY IDENTITY. I CAN NOT FUCKING CONTROL MY PARAPHILIA.
[CG] : DO I WISH TO BE A NERCOPHILE? NO. DO I WANT TO BE ASSOCIATED AS ONE? NO!! AM I ONE? YES. BECAUSE I CAN'T CONTROL IT.
[CG] : I AM SICK AND TIRED OF SEEING IDIOTS GO UP AND ABOUT HARASSING PEOPLE WITH GENUINE DISORDERS AND THEN HAVE THE AUDACITY TO CALL THOSE PEOPLE WITH DISORDERS THINGS LIKE PREDICTORS, ABLEIST, RACIST, ETC. THE AUDACITY YOU MUST HAVE TO HARASS SOMEONE WHO'S STRUGGLING JUST TO SAY THAT THEY ARE THE ONE IN THE WRONG.
[CG] : AS A FICTIVE WHO IS HEAVILY SOURCE CONNECTED, MY TRAUMA PLAYS A HUGE PART OF WHY I AM A NECROPHILE. I USE THIS FLAG BECAUSE I AM FINALLY ACCEPTING MY IDENTITY.
[CG] : I. DIDN'T. CHOSE. THIS. BUT YOU FUCKING ANTIS CHOSE TO HARASS THOSE JUST LIKE ME. WE DON'T WANT TO BE THIS WAY.
[CG] : I'M NOT SURE WHAT THE POINT OF TUMBLR IS BUT I WILL IN FACT USE IT AS A PLACE TO RANT IF I WANT TO.
[CG] : IF YOU'RE AN ANTI AND YOU SEE THIS PLEASE ENLIGHTEN ME ON WHY YOU THINK IT'S OKAY TO SINGLE OUT PEOPLE WHO ARE GENUINELY STRUGGLING.
[CG] : BLESS MY EYES WITH WHATEVER YOU TYPE OUT EXPLAINING ON HOW IT'S POSSIBLY OKAY FOR YOU TO BE ABLEIST TOWARDS PEOPLE WITH PARAPHILIAS.
[CG] : I COULD GO FOR DAYS EXPLAINING HOW PARAPHILIAS ARE DISORDERS AND ANTIS ARE ABLEISTIC PIECES OF SHIT THAT NEED TO BE STEPPED ON LIKE GUM BUT I WON'T BOTHER YOU ALL WITH THAT.
