It really is SUCH a thing - assuming nothing & speaking on behalf of your needs instead of expecting anything at all 🙏🏻 . . #entiretyrepost @xavier.dagba • • • • • • Montreal, Quebec If you grew up in a household where you had to walk on eggshells in order to feel safe or where you needed to take care of your caregivers in order to experience connection, then anticipating other people's needs is probably something you are practiced at. Very often, being raised in such households causes you to live in a constant hyper-vigilant state where deciphering the needs of people you care about is a high priority for you. It is even highly likely that part of your love language is to anticipate and meet the needs of your lovers. Another possibility is that despite all the efforts you put into anticipating their needs and meeting them, you might still feel under appreciated at times. Can you relate? This can cause a huge amount of frustration. When this is the case, we often happen to project onto them the same love language. We expect of them to love us the same way. It is a ruthless and very sobering realization that it is not always the case. Sometimes people just don't have a clue about what you need. Expecting of a lover to do their best to meet your needs (without losing themself) is valid.... Provided that they know the need. Here is the question: what feels unsafe for you about speaking your needs? Do you even feel allowed to have needs to begin with? Do you feel allowed to take up space? Who is supposed to give you permission? I guess you already have the answer to the last question. I'm inviting you to repeat out loud: "It is safe for me to ask for what I need. It is safe for me to take up space." Leave a ♥️ below if this resonates with you and tag a friend who needs this. #RadicalOwnership #RadicalResponsibility #HealingOutLoud https://www.instagram.com/p/CI6yr5AHuIN/?igshid=lpsl40yumbq0
