#quotes 2022

“Some things you just naturally want to keep private. Not because they are bad, but because you just want them secret. There are two or three things I wouldn’t want even you to know about.”

“It was a very white male fixation to be concerned with legacy. How do you mean? he’d asked. ‘Only people who have a plausible hope of being immortalized in history are so obsessed about how they might get immortalized,’ she said. ‘The rest of us are too busy trying to get through the day.’ ”

To know someone and to love them was to assume the task of remembering them, even if that person was still living.

First of all, love is a joint experience between two persons - but the fact that it is a joint experience does not mean that it is a similar experience to the two people involved. There are the lover and the beloved, but these two come from different countries. Often the beloved is only a stimulus for all the stored-up love which has lain quiet within the lover for a long time hitherto. And somehow every lover knows this. He feels in his soul that his love is a solitary thing. He comes to know a new, strange loneliness and it is this knowledge which makes him suffer. So there is only one thing for the lover to do. he must house his love within himself as best he can; he must create for himself a whole new inward world - a world intense and strange, complete in himself...It if for this reason that most of us would rather love than be loved. Almost everyone wants to be the lover. And the curt truth is that, in a deep secret way, the state of being loved is intolerable to many. The beloved fears and hates the lover, and with the best of reasons. For the lover is forever trying to strip bare his beloved. The lover craves any possible relation with the beloved, even if this experience can cause him only pain.

It's hard not to always want something else, not just to let the savage grass grow.

“Your heart [is] going to beat hard enough to kill you because you don’t love and don’t have peace.”