#qtti stuff

Fast forward to today, later on the teacher assistant approached me, apologizing and asking for my correct pronounce. I was genuinely so thankful that they had gone the extra step to correct their mistake. I also apologized for my frustrated reaction, explaining that I was not in the right headspace that day to begin with in general. I had left the lesson prematurely because of how vulnerable I felt. I cried. And I've been pissed and been reflections on these experiences for days.

It keeps happening again and again, people assuming and me correcting. I hate it. I know for a fact that I don't owe gender neutrality to anyone in order to be respected. Then, people do ask, how would they know you are nonbinary by the way you present? Well, what I think in general is that no matter what someone looks like, one should never assume their gender. I don't get how being neutral about it until you know their preference for sure is that difficult. There aren't that many of us nonbinary people, I know, it must be strange to encounter one in these settings if you have surrounded yourself with a cis bubble. Still. I just wish cis people could be more considerate, more respectful and more neutral and teach their brain to stop jumping into conclusions of someone's identity.

I am growing so tired of educating. It frustrates me that I have to constantly fight for my identity to be respected in every situation. I know people make mishaps. But shouldn't a respectful person want to teach themselves to be less prejudiced? You wouldn't make such assumptions if you were to program your brain to treat people as neutral until you gain actual insight.