Our Vanishing “Third Places” by Ray Oldenburg
"... the third place is the social surroundings separate from the two usual social environments of home and the workplace...
Oldenburg calls one's "first place" the home and those that one lives with. The "second place" is the workplace — where people may actually spend most of their time. Third places, then, are "anchors" of community life and facilitate and foster broader, more creative interaction. All societies already have informal meeting places; what is new in modern times is the intentionality of seeking them out as vital to current societal needs..."
I lived in NY for 6 years. To be honest, this "third place" that Oldenburg calls is everywhere in New York. It's easy to find a place where I can hang out with people around my neighborhood or anywhere else in New York. However, I often find it difficult to engage these places. It takes time for me to be comfortable at a place or a neighborhood.
There is so much going on in NYC, people are moving out / in to places, restaurants / stores open or close, and etc...  There isn't an actual Home / "first place" for many New Yorkers. So it is hard to build trust with each other or to be attached to anything because we don't know how long it will last.  That's why some people think New Yorkers are cold and have careless about anything. ( It's not 100% true tho)
I lived in Bedford (Brooklyn) for 5 years, and I loved the neighborhood. I felt comfortable with it because most of my classmates from my college (Pratt) lived in the area too. Â I remember there was a cafe/restaurant right around the corner where I used to lived. My friends and I got to meet people because we all go there regularly. That cafe was the "third place" in the neighborhood. Everyone knows about it and loves just hang out there. But the owner had to closed the cafe because the landlord decide to sell the building for a better profit. The real-estate of the neighborhood was getting higher because people from the city were in because for the same reason. Then I moved to Astoria a year after that which I enjoy it a lot because it's a strong Greeks family community neighborhood. Everyone seems to know each other and friendly to each other.Â
"...the means for people to gather easily, inexpensively, regularly, and pleasurably — a “place on the corner,” real life alternatives to television, easy escapes from the cabin fever of marriage and family life that do not necessitate getting into an automobile." Â
I believe what makes a neighborhood unit, bring youth and adults into association with one another, to have the gift of friendship, or anything is not just by having "Third places" for NYC.  It's to have the right balance of these three "first , second, and third" places, so people will slowly care and be engaged with the community.  Â