can we likebe normal about introjects who do not use canon pronouns. cool yeah, i do NOT care that this character uses they/them canonically. when you talk about ME as a PERSON, you will use she/her because I use she/her. can i matter more than some fucking pixels, please?
and iâve had people assume that weâre transphobic of some kind because i, an introject of a character that uses they/them, use she/her. like NO??
it feels like âintrojects arenât source!!111!!!11!!1!â goes out of the fucking window when you use gendered* pronouns and youâre sourced from a character that uses they/them
yea, no. i didnt interpret the source material wrong or anything like that. I personally used they/them for a bit until i realized she/her made me SO much happier. And thatâs great! i am not bound by my source
*yes, gendered in particular. In our experience introjects that use neopronouns or it/its have better experiences in getting their pronouns respected. This is not a broad statement but just our experience. Iâve also seen parts that use he/him get treated better than parts that use she/her from the same source. WHAT THE FUUUCK, let me be a GIRL.Â
I do not need to explain why I use she/her, just let me be a fucking GIRLL!!!!!!
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first of all, i wanna say iâm going to talk about age gaps + such (woa!!) so itâll be under the cut. dunno how to tag it tho. I want to clarify that I am 19 and my partner is 18. Normal age gap, we wouldâve been in the same graduating class if we both didnât move schools, yadadada. Itâs a gap of like, a year and four months - literally nothing
kinda a long-ish post alsooo
iâve been thinking back to that time when i got kinda dogged on for claiming them as my date.Â
iâm a middle, iâm 14 cause iâm basically part of us during the pandemic (oh wow itâs been six years). whatevs, thatâs personal context that i donât need to further clarify.Â
basically i was in a server where i had called our date⌠Our Date. i think they ââd me or iâd talked about middle stuff before, I donât know. but this person asks if *iâm* dating our partner. to which i say yes, since i am.Â
queue concerned spiel that iâm getting groomed and âI donât know how your sys hasnât realized it. you should break it off with them. theyâre 17 and youâre 14⌠the year gap is badâ
which. WHAT. bodily we were 18 at the time. also ages get fucky in systems and stuff. i had 18 years of life experience and am the older one in our relationship.Â
they said that maybe i was trying to act âbigâ and that my partner should be more of a caregiver role for me. âŚi could not fucking imagine that âď¸ i have a very big crush on them forever
this is basically just me complaining about people sticking their noses and assuming things.Â
they didnât know or seem to care when i brought up Real and True things such as
1) Bodily I am an adult and understand my own feelings of maturity better than someone else
2) I wouldnât try and force my S/O into a caregiver role
3) I had a hugest crush on them 4ever
4) just saying âour S/Oâ or âmy S/Oâ shouldnât prompt all that actually
5) i am the one that approached them! it was a very honest conversation of (this is paraphrasing obvi), âHey, I really like spending time with you and I have a crush on you. I know Iâm like fourteen in my head so I get if youâre uncomfy with it. I know a lot of other parts are on kissing terms with you and iâd like to be too..!!! Also iâm sorry and if you wanna just be friends thatâs okay too!!!!â
6) My S/O took their time in responding (super fair)
7) we only date when we are both comfortable with it. we only kiss when we are both comfortable with it. etc. every day is a case by case basis and thatâs fine. itâs whatâs good for us
8) matter over mind!! we would've graduated together if it wasn't for moving around and shit!!
i understand being concerned, but trying to get me to instantly break up with my partner and/or force them into a role that NEITHER of us want nor need them to be in is weird as fuck.
i donât think some people realize that different parts from different systems have different things they're comfortable with. just because iâm scared to drive doesnt mean i canât date or whatever.Â
like if you wanna get trauma-metaphor-y with it (our sys is very metaphorical) then of course i want to be able to be dependent on someone else in some way! we were 14 when we went through puberty, of course iâm gonna wanna date about it!!!
iâll probably filter some of this into a better post that isnt just me bitching !!! cause this is something i have strong feelings about in general.
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i wish more plural-oriented apps did not have "plural" or "multiple" in the name!! i really do understand why they do, it makes sense. however when trying to be discreet, it's really hard when i have apps and bookmarks for PLURALkit, PLURALspace, SimplyPLURAL, PLURALlog, etcetc.
I know there's some that don't (write.lighthouse i love you), but a majority do. it's a simple way of signaling wtf their app/site is for. However I Want To Be Discreet with My Bookmarks if Someone Were To Take A Glance Or Something
and i'm just jealous of plurals who could have simplyplural and stuff on their phones while under parental watch.. i wish mine were ignorant to tech things like that!!!
maybe it was just the communities we were in and around, but it feels like a lot of people were inflamed at others saying things like âmy partsâ âyour partsâ and âtheir partsâ
I remember someoneâs response being something like âI donât say âmy headmatesâ since theyâre not mine, theyâre people not objects,â when they were asked a question of âwhatâs it like for headmates that arenât fronting?â
maybe it was the general time (this was like.. 2020/2021)? but i remember seeing this everywhere
it never made sense to us since, it would be like saying âmy friendsâ, âmy familyâ, âmy teacherâ and whatnot. youâre not claiming ownership, but rather relationship/comradeity(??). like i donât own âmy partnerâ but we share partnership status. i donât own âmy teacherâ but theyâre still the person who teaches me.
im bad at wording but like.. It makes sense, yeah?? thereâs a difference between âmy toothbrushâ (object, claiming ownership) and âmy friendsâ (real people, claiming bond).Â
i think a lot of people saw âmy parts/alters/headmates/facets/etcâ and assumed it was in an ownership way, for some reason
tired but it's always funny to see such Large Community Headcanons and then just the Introject of That Character.
like everything in neutral, i am saying this in a vacuum! it's just great to see people going "this guy is aroace!" in 2026 and then the guy (who has been here since 2022) is.. dubiously into machines and wires.
then the guy (introject) going "yeah i like that though, they make a good point. i'm just a little freak" in response to people's headcanons
simply a funny event. the difference in Introjection vs Popular Fandom Thoughts. How indiviual introjects can be.. and then the introject going "I do FW that idea of my* self"
