I’m just gonna bitch about my sisters dumbass conservative white boy who functionally invited himself on our vacation and has convinced her she can’t live happily without him! One of the things that keeps going through my head is the fact that he kind of made us feel guilty for my mom choosing to stay at a comparatively fancier place in Egypt on her vacation, but the kicker is that he kind of made my sister feel bad about it and they were joking about how much the final bill was yaddah yaddah. Cause he isn’t bougie like that he’s a hardcore Worker living off the fat of the land! And the reason why it had made me and my mom so FLAMINGLY ENRAGED is that it was LESS MONEY on our short VACATION than he regularly spends AT THE SAME AMOUNT OF TIME ON GROCERIES AT OUT HOUSE where he will just come and conk out for 2-3 weeks.
and the issue here w me and my mom isn’t the money per se as luckily we’re pretty financially stable but oh my fucking god the ENTITLEMENT of it, the male and financial entitlement of it, the ONLY reason he can pat himself on the back for being such a low-needs hard worker and find the amount Ridiculous is because HE DOESNT DO THE GROCERY SHOPPING! He doesn’t know how much things cost because HE DOESNT DO THR GROCERY SHOPPING! When he has stayed at OUR HOUSE he will at most accompany my sister to the grocery store and throw random snacky bits into the cart on our dime - never ONCE has he volunteered to go to the grocery store on his own time and financial decision! Even though we have a lot of physical work to do at our house as my parents work full time and we live with my grandmother who requires a lot of care and for someone to make her breakfast and lunch he has not ONCE volunteered to do so or to take her driving out of the house, and my mom has stopped putting them on the chart to make dinner as it always coincidentally just ends up being my sister while he “helps.” (Sort of it’s awkward) add in the fact that while he has snide things to casually say about how my mom spends her money on vacation we live in a really expensive area and he feels no dilemna about throwing stuff that’s really relatively expensive like red meat, ice cream, and alcohol into the cart (that we almost never buy) or ordering it at dinner out etc etc. all of the stuff about jsut flatly paying for someone else whose considered an adopted child/member of the family is pretty normal in the Asian diaspora culture I’m from etc etc but what I can’t stand is the entitlement for him to think he’s some kind of hard worker who’d never spend THIS kind of money when he spends THIS kind of money all the time but just doesn’t know it because he never picks up the groceries
