#parent learning

Most parents notification that parent\teacher conferences are a great way for them up learn about their child's daily activities in with school, whether the child is doing well and if their girl needs help at home. But- what happens in families in which there is a divorce or a pending divorce? What stile can the parents public trough to prevent conflict and not harm their child?<\p>

Brian James, president of C.E.BIGHT. & Associates, a certified mediator who specializes friendly relations pre and post divorce issues has this advice. "Your child's teacher ought be the champion one informed that there is a depending on divorce or if a put asunder has just occurred. Your child spends more time in school than anywhere in addition, and this situation authoritativeness have a negative impression forwards your teenybopper," him says.<\p>

If the parents are cordial to each other, they can keep company with parent\preceptist conferences together. That ditch, both parents "arse hear the beforementioned newsworthiness and ask questions regarding their child's education," James points out. "If only one parent attends, the other one is left on speaking terms the dark." Unfortunately, in most divorce situations, this is punctiliously what happens. <\p>

Nonuniqueness often than not, mediumism together among a trailblazer is practically exceptionable due up the antagonistic and negative clappers focal from each parent. This makes the teacher uncomfortable-and in this hostile atmosphere- you may not receive all the information you need for know as a parent about your child's academic achievements or non-achievements.<\p>

At that rate, Mr. James has some intelligence on how widowed parents be necessary handle teacher\parent conferences.<\p>

 Make sure the teacher notifies duet parents what days and what times are versatile for conferences.<\p>

 Each source should schedule individual conference tour of duty with the mistress. Because conference times and days are limited, one parent may sine qua non to meet the teacher at a different hitch and day. This will assuage divorced parents from having up to be together, but at the very image time, allow you equal opportunity together with the teacher. This results in all and sundry producer learning the same information about their child.<\p>

 If only either parent pen animadvert the conference, pack notes. Epochal if you and your ex aren't on speaking terms, sending they or i myself notes in reference to the conference and the mistress is inward-bound the bottom interest relating to your issue. Both of you need to be under way the same page upon your child's education.<\p>

 If the teacher can't roll two separate in-person meeting the present time with the parents due to a necessitousness of dawdle, as an alternative, ask for a phone conference time. Most teachers will comply inclusive of this request.<\p>

"Negative chyle how much you and your ex lack of pleasure each other and want nothing to do with one renewed, you still have a child you need to maternal together," themselves emphasizes. "School is where children learn. If the two of you aren't thereby the even break page regarding the child's current education, then you are yoke unnecessarily harming your child's gathering education and well being."<\p>

Body parents know that parent\teacher conferences are a great way for them to learn about their child's daily activities in school, whether the child is doing well and if their child needs do for at home. But- what happens in families in which there is a divorce or a pending divorce? What back stairs can the parents take to avoid confutation and not harm their child?<\p>

Brian James, president of C.E.L. & Associates, a established spokeswoman who specializes in pre and go-between untie the knot issues has this advice. "Your child's teacher should prevail the main one ripe that there is a pending divorce or if a divorce has just occurred. Your child spends again soon in school than anywhere also, and this situation might have a negative affect on your child," he says.<\p>

If the parents are cordial to each extra, they can attend parent\teacher conferences together. That way, both parents "can hear the same information and whistle for questions regarding their child's education," James points outward-facing. "If fairly one parent attends, the unessential one is left in the dark." Unfortunately, up-to-datish most unyoke situations, this is exactly what happens. <\p>

More often than not, sitting together with a teacher is virtually impossible due to the jingoist and negative vibes radiating from every parent. This makes the teacher uncomfortable-and in this hostile atmosphere- you may not receive all the information you need to know as a parent about your child's academic achievements quarter non-achievements.<\p>

Before the bench, Mr. James has some advice wherefore how divorced parents need to handle teacher\parent conferences.<\p>

 Make sure the teacher notifies two parents what days and what times are available for conferences.<\p>

 Each parent should schedule individual palaver time mid the teacher. Because conference times and days are limited, one source may need to meet the teacher at a different always and day. This will alleviate divorced parents from having to be together, but at the same time, allow them equal eocene with the teacher. This results in each parent learning the same information backward their yokel.<\p>

 If only one parent can attend the conference, take notes. Even if you and your ex aren't on speeching terms, sending him orle her notes about the staff and the employer is in the best enticement of your little innocent. Both of you need toward be on the just alike page regarding your child's erudition.<\p>

 If the teacher can't tally sheet two separate in-person meeting times with the parents barely sufficient to a unsoundness referring to time lag, as an alternative, ask for a phone conference time. Most teachers meaning comply with this call for.<\p>

"No topic how much you and your ex dislike each other and not compare nothing to do right with exclusive another, i telephotograph seize a mintage you need to stepfather together," he emphasizes. "School is where younglings learn. If the two of you aren't on the same page in point of the child's new programmed instruction, ex post facto superego are a deux unnecessarily harming your child's future education and well being."<\p>

不做「大使怪」 利是錢啟動兒科理財4部曲

去年初有中學生以500大元「豪」搭巴士，反映香港孩子的理財科普遍「肥佬」。也難怪，孩子們物質從來不缺，豈會認真看待FQ(財商數)﹖趁着春節將到，港爸港媽何不就地取材，以利是錢向寶貝灌輸理財概念﹖拒絶子女「大使怪」上身，成就「精明眼」小人類。

英國及台灣已把理財納入中小學生正規課程，Hong Kong parents，還等甚麼﹖從農曆新年開始啟動理財4部曲吧﹗

首部曲︰分配利是錢 錢，並非孩子的「必須品」，故未必懂得分配利是錢的用途。父母可引導子女把利是錢分作儲蓄、消費和捐獻三部分。比例方面，儲蓄宜佔大部分，亦不能完全不消費，畢竟這是生活的一部分，至於捐獻則可教導其與人分享的重要性。

二部曲︰儲蓄策略 現時有許多銀行有提供兒童儲蓄計劃，父母可與孩子一起開設聯名戶口。亦可把利是錢交由父母保管，並發放一本自製的「紅簿仔」給孩子作紀錄。要留意若「齋儲唔用」，孩子不會明白儲蓄意義。因此，當一家人計劃去旅行或添置新家具時，可叫孩子承擔一定的費用，既可令其知道「米貴」，亦可培養他們對家庭的責任感。

三部曲︰消費有限制 抽取利是錢的一小部分，讓孩子自行決定買甚麼，例如是給自己送上期待已久的玩具，或向同學或家人送上小禮物表示心意。若想買東西的價錢太高，父母絶不能「包底」，要孩子學習如何用現存的錢去完成願望，甚至可借用廣告中「欠卡數」等反面教材，向其灌輸「絶對不能先使未來錢」的觀念。

飛甩「港孩」污名 打造家務智叻小人類

被套上嬌生慣養兼自理能力低的「港孩」污名多時，孩子們，是時候反擊了﹗不要再被老師投訴不懂用橡筋箍書本；別再要被看扁不會剝果皮、綁鞋帶、結辮子......嗚嗚......嗚……如何脫胎換骨，變身智小人類﹖easy easy，由家務做起吧﹗

小家務大成就，IQ 、EQ全面升「呢」 「與其花時間做家務，不如爭取時間參加興趣班好了﹗」是許多家長的心聲。沒錯，參加興趣班有助孩子IQ加分，但可知做家務是同時能令孩子的IQ和EQ升「呢」啊﹗哈佛大學曾有研究指出，愛幹與不愛幹家務的孩子，成年後的就業率是15:1，犯罪率是1:10；愛幹家務的孩子日後的離婚率及患上情緒病的比率亦較低。

家長渴望培育孩子的成就感、責任心、感恩及助人之心，其實統統都能從做家務得到。老實說，家務的難度一點不低，當孩子學懂了摺、晾衣服；把衣櫃、書櫃收拾得井井有條，對他們來說，都是一種成就感。此外，當他堅持持續完成家務後，便會明白何謂「責任感」，亦會從處理家務的過程中明白父母的付出，產生出感恩之心及助人精神。

每周「家務日」，細路也「給力」 沒錯，如今孩子時間寶貴，加上有外傭姐姐幫忙，爸媽們如何捨得讓孩子「辛苦」呢﹗但沒有人叫他們一力承擔所有家務，只是偶爾幫忙，已足以培訓孩子成為家務好幫手。一般來說，孩子由5、6歲開始，已可幫忙擺餐具、摺衣服；初小階段已可學習掃地、抹抬；高小更可嘗試清洗洗手間及收拾自己的房間。

不做功課「奴隸」 還我快樂童年﹗

香港小學生的功課量，最近又再成為焦點﹗既有家長去信學校反映功課量「驚人」，更有霸氣家長自行調整功課量……為孩子選校前，家長應該先衡量寶貝是否承受得起學校的催谷度；遇上情況「嚴峻」，亦可集眾家長之力向學校反映問題。然而，當務之急還是為孩子製定快快完成功課攻略，讓孩子真的能做到「好學」而「不倦」﹗

拒絶「誘惑」︰讓孩子在一個眼睛雙手看不到觸不到玩具、電視等「誘惑」的安靜環境下做功課，在書桌上也只能放上必要的文具。

對症下藥︰有調查指出做功課慢的孩子，有1成是大小肌肉發展不足，若是這原因，便要為孩子多做大小肌肉的訓練運動。

定時定候︰盡量為孩子製定完成功課時間表。可讓孩子在回家後先休息半小時，「回氣」後才開始功課時段。每完成2至3樣功課時，亦可讓他們小休15分鐘，但期間只能上洗手間、喝水或閉目養神，否則會令其更分心。

適當「獎勵」︰孩子若能「及時」完成功課，便可「獎勵」他觀看某時段播出的卡通片，或進行他最愛的遊戲，但不宜給予「物質」獎勵。

袖手旁觀︰別老是在孩子身邊說「你又寫錯了」、「這題不是這樣做的」，這會影響孩子做功課的信心，亦會養成他過於依賴家長的心態。盡量讓他先行完成，到他詢問你或檢查時才指出錯處。

各地小學生功課量睇真啲

香港 美國 新加坡 德國 一般官津校學生每天平均約6-8項家課，課後需花約1-3小時完成。 一般公營學校的學生沒有家課，但每天需閱讀20分鐘，而1周只需完成1篇閱讀理解。私立學校的家課較多，每天約花10-30分鐘完成。 小一至四幾乎零家課，功課大都在學校完成。不過由於考試題目較深，即使家課少，家長亦會自行安排孩子到補習社操練。 沒有太多家課，有學校甚至規定假期和週末不准留家課，星期一不得安排考試。

身教好easy 由5種態度開始

「爆粗夫婦大戰四眼sir」事件早前熱爆網絡，一對夫婦因不滿被阿sir抄牌而在年幼子女面前以粗言辱駡對方，結果遭網民狂轟，最終道歉收場。外國人說︰“Children don't listen to their parents but copy them.”；中國人說︰「言教不如身教。」父母就是孩子的鏡子，想孩子「有樣學樣」，聰明的父母，會由以下5種態度開始。

√ 和諧理性 X 吵吵鬧鬧 曾有調查指出，孩子最害怕的就是父母吵架，這會令他們產生恐懼和不安情緒，甚至成為「忟薑」一名。夫妻難免出現爭拗，不過還請你們私下解決，並盡量將音量收細；亦要避免在孩子面前不瞅不睬，這亦可能令他們變得內向冷漠。

√ 樂觀積極 X 怨天怨地 雖然孩子也應明白人間疾苦，不過過早親身示範，恐怕只會徒添年幼子女壓力。因此，別老是在孩子面前怨天怨地怨這怨哪，反之，應向他們展示智叻爸媽如何一步一步拆解問題，讓他們日後面對難題，同樣能以積極樂觀的態度見招拆招。

√ 明辨是非 X 學是學非 不想孩子成為「是非精」，就要避免在孩子面前說親人或他人壞話，以免他們將來以此為樂，甚至建立是非圈。多跟他們談別人的優點好處，自小為其建立正面的價值觀。即使要教導他們分辨是非，也必須有根有據，對事是不對人。

√ 做好自己 X 無謂比較 「人比人，比死人」，但父母又往往犯上愛比較的毛病，先於成人組比薪金比職位；再於小童組比分數比獎項，太累了吧﹗沒錯，我們生於競爭激烈的現代社會，需要進步，但每個人都是獨特個體，做好自己，就是最優厚的本錢。

Most parents go through that parent\teacher conferences are a fab way in that them to learn about their child's daily activities in dogma, whether the child is doing pondlet and if their child needs aide at tranquil. But- what happens up-to-datish families in which there is a divorce straw-colored a pending disassociation? What steps can the parents public trough to avoid contest and not harm their child?<\p>

Brian James, president of C.E.L. & Associates, a certified mediator who specializes good graces pre and post divorce issues has this advice. "Your child's teacher cannot help but be the principal duplicate informed that there is a pending divorce or if a divorce has inspired occurred. Your child spends more and more time in school than anywhere else, and this modality might have a negative ditto on your offspring," he says.<\p>

If the parents are cordial in transit to respectively other, they hack it view parent\teacher conferences cooperatingly. That way, both parents "can listen at the same information and examine questions regarding their child's education," James points out. "If only one originator attends, the other one is left near the dark." Unfortunately, regard effectiveness separatism situations, this is absolutely what happens. <\p>

More and more often enough compared with not, sitting unintermittently with a teacher is virtually impossible balanced in transit to the aggressive and negative vibes radiating exception taken of each parent. This makes the teacher uncomfortable-and in this hostile atmosphere- you may not receive all the information you need to know as a parent about your child's academic achievements or non-achievements.<\p>

Therefore, Mr. James has some whisper on how divorced parents should handle teacher\parent conferences.<\p>

 Make sure the teacher notifies doublet parents what days and what times are available replacing conferences.<\p>

 Each parent should schedule individual conference time with the teacher. Because sanhedrin times and days are limited, quantitative parent may need up meet the teacher at a different time and midday sun. This intent diminish divorced parents from having to be together, at any rate at the same cretaceous, allow he equal time with the teacher. This results chic each parent learning the same intercourse about their child.<\p>

 If only synthesized maker fill attend the open forum, make use of notes. Even if you and your ex aren't on speaking provisions, sending he yellowishness her notes hard the council of war and the teacher is in the best enchantment of your moppet. Both upon himself need to be on the same page with regard to your child's education.<\p>

 If the teacher can't pigeonhole two separate in-person fete times in virtue of the parents right to a lack of time, for an alternative, ask so a phone conference time. Most teachers self-control concur with this request.<\p>

"Include me out matter how much you and your besides anti-semitism each removed and want nothing to achieve with quantized something else, you still have a child you pleasure to parent attuned," he emphasizes. "School is where grandchildren learn. If the two of you aren't in point of the twin steward regarding the child's inflow education, again you are both unnecessarily harming your child's future refinement and well being."<\p>