#panicmanic

Hi again! i rather this message be replied privately. I want to say it’s urgent because I would really really love to try and calm down soon.

after getting PCOS blood test my reports are fine and everything is okay with my hormone levels.  However I think the mental damage and the negative talk has really gotten to me. I should feel better, but yet I still find myself looking at the mirror and hating my peach fuzz. Ive sent pictures to my friend a bio major and she’s worked at the hopsital. Before my results were given back, I had sent her pictures and she them and said she doesnt see an issue it’s just a peach fuzz. My mom and sister tell me the same. Not unless you get really close to my face is it noticeable, which is normal. Makes me self conscious

I think due to some lighting and shadow underneath my chin the hair looks dark. When i look at a mirror it appears lighter and sometimes it’s more visible in direct sunlight. And well my friend told me that everyone is different, peach fuzz fades over the years when you get to ur late 20s, im in my early 20s right now. Yet, I look at friends and they dont seem to have noticeable peach fuzzes, however I can only see myself through a mirror, I might not have a noticeable one either and Ive been getting all this major support and reassurance but my brain doesn’t seem to accept it.  I only start to feel negative and such when im at home, and  at school I’ll have the thoughts pop into my mind but not for long. And my mind is all like “maybe you should go back to the doctors and ask him now why I have more of a fuzz then my sister” but there could be many reasons and I rather my life just go back to normal before all of this happened.  Is there anyway I can just forget and move on, I don’t want to shave or remove it b/c I’m terrified of it growing back thicker. It’s just a peach fuzz, and due to my ethnicity etc i just have a more prominent one. My mom will look at my face and will repeatedly tell me it’s fine, yet I feel doubt that she’s lying. Can I please get some advice to calm down, I feel like with this stress, school and work stress I just can’t function. The last two weeks were terrible so I understand I won’t just get better in like two days.

Hey lovely, 

You’re right, there are a lot of reasons why your peach fuzz grows a bit thicker or more than your sister. We’re all wired differently in our biology even if we are almost 99.9% identical in our genetic makeup. It’s the same as why some people grow head hair thicker than others. Some girls grow leg hairs or even public hair thicker than others. There is nothing wrong with that and the same is applied to your peach fuzz. 

I think it may help if you learn to accept the peach fuzz as it is. It’s a lot easier to live with something when you accept it. So acknowledge that it’s there. Really, really acknowledge that this is normal. If you wish to hide it, there are various makeup that you can apply on it and make it go away. I think similar to teens or young adults who have severe acne problems, it’s learning to make it work for you. Whether you let it go or you apply good makeup skills on it. 

You can talk to a dermatologist and see if they can recommend or even prescribe some lotion or cream that can prevent unwanted facial hair growth in women. It’s really hard for me to recommend other ways that you can move on from this unless you’re willing to try so I’m going to list some ways and it’ll be up to you to try them, okay? 

Stop looking into the mirror. It may sound impossible but when we have imperfections, especially in our face, we tend to hyper focus on them when we see them. I used to suffer from severe acne problems until recently (I’m also in my early 20s) and it was terrible. Every time I looked in the mirror, it was there, taunting me. So I avoided mirrors. I treated my acne and I avoided mirrors. I still don’t look at mirrors often unless necessary and my life went on just fine. So try to not look into mirrors as much so you’re not hyper focused on your problem as well. 

Distract yourself. if you find that you have a lot of free time where you sit and think about your peach fuzz, find something else to distract your brain. It’s not a permanent solution but it is something that can help you pass the day. 

Challenge negative thoughts. Whatever negative thoughts you have, challenge them. Argue with them and don’t stop until you’ve won. If you think that the peach fuzz makes you look stupid, ask yourself why? Why does it make you look stupid? Your sister has it, does it make her look stupid? Someone else out there may have it like you, do you think they look stupid? Why does it apply only to you then? These are similar questions to what my therapist would ask me. We tend to make ourselves the exception to everything. Everyone deserves to beloved, except me. Everyone is beautiful in their own way, except me. So instead of allowing yourself to just accept those exceptions, challenge it. 

Exercise. I find that the best way to increase your serotonin levels and naturally make your brain happier is to exercise. It doesn’t have to be 3 hours at the gym lifting weights or even running a marathon. It’s getting out there and sweat. Go for a walk. Go for a short jog. Do some gardening. Bike around your neighbourhood. It’s getting your body active and keep moving that actually helps. 

Lighten your skin. There are cream and face washes that helps you lighten your skin. If you look in Asia, these are very common as they aspire to have white pearly skin. So if you think that you have uneven skin tone on your face that worsens the look of your fuzz, then perhaps trying to lighten that area might work for you. 

it’s hard to not focus on your imperfection. But you’re not reduced to just that in everybody’s eyes. So flaunt the good about you. Focus on that. if you’ve got wicked hair, flaunt your beautiful mane. If you have a body that’s to die for, dress nice and do your makeup. Make yourself beautiful for yourself. Brush your hair. Wear nice clothes. Smile more. Whatever you think works for you, give it a shot. There is nothing wrong with any of those. Finding something that makes you happy is good and there should be no shame in flaunting it. 

Always by your side,