#paintolerance

When a person tells you that you hurt them, you don't get to decide that they didn't. I don't know what this quote is from...but damn does it mean a lot to me Because it makes me want to throw this in the face of all these people I have met in my life The ones that constantly say things like "oh she probably forgot about it" Or the ones that say stuff like "get over it, it's not that bad" Because when I think of this quote it makes me think of pain tolerance, or lack there of. Ok well let me ask you something, when you see a child, and they are screaming and crying that their toy was taken, what do you think of? Back then my first reaction was "ugh it's just a toy." But when you think about it, this child is new to the world...they haven't had something worse happen to them yet. So to you its a toy. To them it could be a very precious valuable, or even a close friend. So when that child is screaming about the toy, it could be that they are not used to that type of pain yet, they haven't found something more important. Because if my bank money suddenly got ripped away from me, you bet your ass I would be furious, and tears would certainly come to my eyes. If my best friend just dropped off the face of the earth I would be devastated. But when I was young the things most important to me were my toys and family. And honestly it makes me think that a way that you could deal with kids could be something along the lines of understanding their pain, because although it's minuscule to us, to them it's astronomical. And then trying to help them through the grieving process. "Yes I took your toy, and I understand you're upset, but you can have it back later, right now you have to wait." And then standing firm, every person has a different way of grieving, so some kids may take it differently. Eventually they will build up a coping mechanism, and their pain tolerance will get higher. So I guess what I was trying to say was that, everyone has a different pain threshold. So when you say something to them that you think they should get over, you CANT make that call. Just like if someone says they're sick, you can't tell them otherwise. Because they are the one that knows their body best. I know my pain better than anyone, so when I say that something fucking hurts, I would like for people to respect that and shut the fuck up.

Tattoos just don't even hurt anymore

When the pain meds stop making the pain go away you know you're in for a horrible night. 

i put myself out there a lot but it never seems to hurt less when i dont get the reaction i want... i need some emotional pain tolerance to that