#overcominginsecurity

One of the greatest journeys in life is overcoming insecurity and learning to truly not give a shit.

Insecurity sucks.

It leaves you restless. It makes you weak. It keeps you from knowing and believing the truth. And what’s so bad about it, is it will not lead you to success.

 Insecurity means to not be confident about yourself or your ability to do things well: nervous and uncomfortable (Merriam-Webster)

I also believe that its root is pride. Sometimes, we love ourselves too much that we do not want to be under other people. We don’t want to be “like them” because we want to be better than them! Crab mentality comes and instead of having a harmonious relationship; tearing down instead of building each other up. Envy tags along too.

When you are insecure, you have a feeling of discontentment aroused by someone else’s possession or qualities. Her hair is better than mine, her waistline is slimmer than mine, her dress is..I don’t know, it doesn’t fit her, mine is better or her wedding is more gorgeous than mine and a list of “better than” stories. 

Insecurityville is a dangerous place to live in. The more you want to be better, the more you become conceited. You brag about yourself & how good you are, not the One who made you.

Now, I’ve listed some basic things on how to overcome insecurity. It may not be easily won but hey! Nothing is impossible.

How to overcome insecurity?

1. Do not compare yourself with others

Other people may compare you to them but we cannot control what they do or think most of the time. The good thing is you can control yourself. So please do a little favor and stop it, end it and wave your white flag to comparison!

 "Comparison is the death of joy". Said by the one often called ‘The Great American Novel’ , better known by his pen name Mark Twain. 

 When the Lord makes it clear you’re to follow Him in this new direction, focus fully on Him and refuse to be distracted by comparisons with others.” ― Charles R. Swindoll 

 2. Know you have a purpose

Maybe you felt rejected at one point of your life; maybe you felt unimportant, not needed. Maybe broken families, past relationships, former friendships left you alone, hurt, pained and with no direction. But I’m telling you this, you have a purpose. God have given you wonderful hands to wonderfully craft arts or heal wounds and even excel in sports. God gave you a beautiful voice to sing and inspire or give hope. To love and be loved, to forgive and be forgiven. He has given you a lot more than you know! You were intended to be what God wants you to be. Follow Him. There is a reason why God created you. 

 3. Be secured with God’s love

You don’t need to put an act. Sometimes, it is okay to admire other girls/boys; to dress like them, have the same hairstyle etc. But know that you have your own identity. Remember, God chose you. Your identity is not with the brands you wear or people you are with. You are God’s prized princess or prince.

It’s my 27th year of existence and I’ve come across people who battle insecurity. I too, have had such feeling. But the good news is, you can be secured. You need not to worry because Someone loves you dearly and accepts you as you are. As a matter of fact, He loves you so much and He wants you to experience security in Him. 

Go ahead, follow God’s path and do His will! Do not worry.