#outofcabaret

((Not really.  At least not on tumblr.  RP partners dropped off, followers/partners stopped responding to posts and/or ask memes, and I got too busy to have the energy to keep trying.

I do RP with Sochi on Discord as he’s still an incredibly active muse and one of my favorite characters, but that often also depends on partner availability.

((Hey, Anon!

I’m glad you see their relationship that way. Senshi (Al-mun) and I try and always play our characters as realistically as possible. As for drawing from my own relationship experience, not so much.

I’ve been in love, but always unrequited, and never as connected as Sochi is with Al. Sochi is also very different than me in the emotions area, so I can’t really use my own emotional experiences with him because the way we feel things is so different. I

think my writing for him in relationships, especially with Al, mostly comes from things I’ve observed in the real world and in literature, attempting to answer the question “why relationships work” and folding that into my writing of Sochi, mixing that with Sochi’s beliefs about relationships.

Ultimately, Sochi and Al work because they, as characters, have always been able to put in the work and effort to stay together. There were many times one could have cut and run, and some times that was tempting, but for them, they were able to put in the effort to work through their issues and communicate. Of all the relationships I’ve been in and observed, that does seem to be key.

Like any other couple they fight and disagree and annoy one another or let their own issues get in the way of their responsibilities. They might not always like one another, but they always love one another. They put in the work and make a conscious effort to do their best together to overcome the roadblocks. I’ve learned that you have to do that in any relationship, even moreso in a marriage, and I’m glad Sochi and Al feel the same.

Of course, Al is a huge part of that, and Senshi has put in the time and effort with me to write Al and for us to see how these two would go together. I had no clue when Sochi’s crush first bloomed that they’d end up here. As his mun I was afraid he was getting in too deep and going to wind up hurt like with Shawn. I was proven wrong (Sochi loves doing that to me) and he and Al are ridiculously happy. Senshi is actually married, so she has more experience than me on what it takes.

Largely, though, I don’t interfere with Sochi. Sochi is Sochi and in all the years I’ve written him I’ve learned that I can not control him. I will write where he leads. Thankfully, that’s lead him to good places. I’m glad you’re still invested, Anon, and I hope you enjoy their new journey into the fray of parenthood!

((So…Sochi is definitely not my type.  He’s very physically affectionate and emotional, and those kind of things, which adorable in their own way, would not be something I could deal with in a life partner.  The way Sochi thinks just wouldn’t be good for me, and I would in no way be good for him as a partner.

((Of course.  I miss pretty much all of my partners.  It makes it harder to be active if no one is around to be active with.  That is what makes it a vicious cycle though because if I find it hard to be active and don’t really do much then it makes it hard for my partners to want to be active. 

((There hasn’t really been much incentive to be online.  Not many (if any) of my partners are posting on Tumblr any longer, which makes it difficult to interact aside from the reblog of random posts.  Also I’m not really getting any questions to foster dialogue.  I do RP with him still off-tumblr, so he’s still really active in my brain…it’s just hard to put that activity anywhere.

((You know, Anon, I have no idea. XD

Senshi and I do a lot of RPing off-tumblr, so I’m sure little details we’ll do via that.  It’d be way too difficult to do a huge thread for it on Tumblr, but we may do a small one?  I may also do a drabble, but I’d have to do it for a certain aspect of the wedding too.

Odds are, Sochi will do a journal entry.  Senshi and I have everything pretty much planned out, so it’s more about writing it all out and deciding what parts to write out.