#otherkinproblems

I feel like I need to at least talk about this briefly because this is not the case.

The base definition of otherkin, and of the therian communities has been "a person who identifies as an animal (or insert mythical beast here) on a spiritual, or psychological level."

Identifies as.

If you don't fit the identifies as portion, or if you pick and choose your kintypes or theriotypes

You are not otherkin, and you are not a therian. Neither one of these are a conscious choice. There is no picking and choosing, there never has been.

One can experience changes with their kintyoes and theriotypes through self discovery, because sometime mistakes are made. And I wouldn't even really call them mistakes then because it's a journey of understanding yourself.

And yes, copinglinks aren't otherkin. Valid perhaps. But not a part of the community, copinglinks from what I've seen choose their types as a method to cope with some sort of trauma of varying degrees.

This is not an attack on anyone, and is meant to be educational more than anything and just kinda my standpoint on the whole situation.

I don't like that people are trying to remove such integral definitions that have played an important part of the community for year's, and I fear that if we continue down this new path, the communities will be seen as more of a joke than it already is.

Now I'm not saying that therianthropy and otherkinity is a choice or that people choose their theriotypes/ kintypes.

At the time I surrounded myself with people in the community that frowned upon those that had more than a singular type - bad apples so to speak, not everyone is like that here. So anything that was not a Spotted Hyena related experience I completely blocked out, force stopped and ignored.

It wasn't until recently, June ish of this year, a bit after my birthday, that the shifts, that came with the draconic part of me had reached an all time uncontrollable high, that I started to consider not being a Spotted Hyena at all ( I was wrong) I actually was so used to the negativity that I held for these shifts that, I actively tried to deny the past eight years as well as this build up of suppressed experinces and just actively tried to forget it all.

It wasn't until a couple months ago, after a several days long conversation with a good friend I had known for a couple years, whi was very open minded, very optimistic and calm - who is also an otherkin, and had to, by themselves come to terms with what they are and who they were, even though it was just an uncomfortable topic for them similarly to what I was going through.

And it was the phrase "what you are, is not who you are." that triggered the beginning and more open minded exploration of the draconic side of me, that eventually led me to where I am today.

I am a Spotted Hyena therian and Voidal Dragon otherkin.

My normal ass gf: Why do you always watch LEBRON JAMES basketball highlights? You don’t even play. 

Me: Dude I just like watching Lebron’s hands. Like his ball control and the way he handles the basketballs is great. Like something about-

My normal ass gf: LOOKA DA FLICKA DA WRIST. (WRIST) 

Me: Like for real? You asked me a question and you can’t even take me seriously?? Wtf.

My normal ass gf: It’s just a fucking joke chill the fuck out.