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To those who dress modestly, quit talking about women who don’t dress modestly like they’re “obsessed with corrupting innocence” or “they feel like their only worth is in their bodies appealing to men” or “they’re following the trends of the day and can’t think for themselves”. Knock it off. You don’t know what’s in their head.

To those who don’t dress modestly, quit talking about women who dress modestly like they’re “pick-me’s trying to virtue signal” or “they just want to listen and cater to men” or “they can’t really truly choose for themselves because who in their right mind would want to wear that”. Knock it off. You don’t know what’s in their head.

People seem to be so quick to demonize what they perceive as “the other side” when it’s like. Y’all. It’s all the same thing. Demonizing women who dress modestly is misogynistic, AND SO IS demonizing women who don’t dress modestly. Reacting in either way to being presented with someone’s choice with “certainly she cannot know that what she’s doing is The Wrong Thing and I have a Duty To Correct Her” IS MISOGYNY.

If someone says something gross about modesty or the deprioritization of it (e.g. “I dress modestly because I don’t want to be assaulted” or “Women who dress modestly need to let loose and go to a club”) then absolutely call that out. Bad decisions need to be addressed and cannot be allowed to fester, 100%, but making sweeping judgements about the moral character of women based on how they look is — say it with me — MISOGYNY.

If you’re gonna let the mere presence or lack thereof of an arbitrary amount of fabric color your view of someone so harshly to the point of making content on the internet about said people, you genuinely need to reevaluate what it means to not judge a book by its cover. Maybe instead of going at other women’s throats for perceived slights, you actually attack the ideologies underpinning what makes these distinctions so charged in the first place. Modesty is not the problem, it’s the misogyny — and you’re letting the misogyny win.