#odetomyday

but… girls do like you… you’re just scared of them…

wait why?? why would it be selfish to come out? money is money and food and rent are more crucial but what does that have to do with being out?

that iS making stuff

idk, I would just sit inside the feeling for a while. I know that gay trans guys often identified as lesbians before they knew they were trans. And Katrina used to think she was into dudes for a minute. Sometimes you're just really queer and you know it. It's OK to feel unsure about your feelings. Your attractions are good and healthy and real, even if they feel confusing sometimes.

how about samantha and charlotte and there’s an episode about how samantha always tops because of charlotte’s internalized homophobia

The L word?!

or alternatively flip out and have a crisis if they do something tiny

yeah! and that’s a thing where like....ngl i do that! but i get that like, you gotta understand how guilt-trippy it is and that if you fuck up in some small way and get really performative to the person about your guilt and what a bad person you are (even if you really believe it), when you do something REALLY fucked up? they’re not gonna feel safe telling you.

and it’s hard! it’s hard to not go into crisis mode and think you’re a bad person when you fuck up. but you just cannot put it on the other person and make it so they then have to shuttle their problem to reassure you. that’s fucked up and it’s wrong.

I know so many people who live with their parents, it’s honestly not a big deal to other people. Like 30% of 27 year olds do it now.