#obligender

I don’t really feel “trans enough” to be in TDOV, and I have no photos where both my face and body look how i want them to. But I want post a picture of myself because it’s been a while, and I looked through all my photos to see if there are any good ones.

There are a lot of things I always think about of why I am not trans enough. But I never focus on the reasons that I think I am trans enough. So i think for today I will.

I am trans enough because I don’t fully identify with my assigned gender at birth. I am trans enough because it better explains my worst body image issues than anything else. I am trans enough because I feel good when I’m referred to with gender neutral pronouns. I’m trans enough because I identify as such (the most important one)

it/its or they/them pronouns

Olbigender: Pronounced ob-li-gender: A gender that is defined by having a partial connection to your AGAB because of coercion or abuse, as well as the presence of gender uncertainty. From obligation + gender. Similar to demigender. A person who identifies as obligender may use the terms oblimasculine or oblifeminine to describe themselves if they feel comfortable doing so. A note from the designer: "I should make it known right now before all the “anti special snowflake” assholes come out of the woodwork, that I, the one who originally saw the need for this term, am a trauma victim who believes that this term will help other trauma victims who are trying to make sense of how their abuse and their gender identity intersect. Specifically, I am a CAFAB demigirl who feels like I would be fully agender if it weren’t for my past religious abuse. Please be considerate of that".

Term coined by: @bazer63

Obligender:

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Oblifeminine:

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Oblimasculine:

[Images: 5 diagonal stripes going from bottom left to top right, thick pastel yellow, thin black, medium pastel (white, pink, or blue), thin black, thick pastel yellow]

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Designed by: @to-reach-the-farthest-star

Color meanings: 

Pink/blue/white center stripe: connection to assigned gender.

Black stripes: uncertainty due to trauma.

Yellow: self-discovery and healing from one’s past.

You mean like, you still have a partial connection to your assigned gender? I don’t think there’s any term for that. You could always coin one!

There are a few similar ones though that might be helpful:

Obligender: Having a partial connection to your assigned gender due to trauma.

Personagender: A term used to describe a gender which is used in public as a social identity even though the individual doesn’t completely identify that way, eg. personaboy.

Commogender: 1) When you know you aren't cis, but you settle with boy or girl for the time being.

2) A feeling that one is definitely not cis, but is unable to define what their gender is due to mental exhaustion. May be used as commoboy/commogirl if the person identifies with a binary gender for convenience.

Cennedgender or Pareogender: Where your gender identity is heavily influenced by your parents or guardian figures.From the old English word "cennend" meaning parent.