#objecta

“All losses revive the trauma of original narcissistic loss and awaken reparative regressive revivals of the state of narcissistic blissful grandeur.” (Cooper, 1993) And that’s why losses are so hard to bear with because it is an open wound that we all have, it has never been closed. For Freud it’s a loss of love; for Lacan it is the loss of the object a, it is the loss of something you can’t even define, the very first feeling we got of complete ecstasy that we will never have again and spend our lives trying to have it one more time. This is why love is so traumatic because it has a history! Even if most of the time we believe it doesn’t because we are not aware of it since it is not conscious knowledge.