#notiptoeing

I’ve realized that so many people SAY they are going to do something but never do. It’s become a nasty habit of society. I never get excited anymore over promises. It’s more like “i’ll be excited/happy/relieved/grateful/etc when I actually see it”. Once someone breaks a first promise or doesn’t deliver on a commitment, I begin to lose faith and trust.I think that’s because when someone used to promise me something, I would get this false sense of safety. I only say false because most promises or commitments were broken. It’s like a moment of “wow I really can’t wait for that, i’m so excited. Oh? Your actually not going to act on what you said? Ok. Minus one trust point”, and then it eventually became a case of “don’t even promise or say your going to do something, just prove it by actually doing it”.

 I don’t think most people do this on purpose, in fact most of their intentions are really good, but can’t people just be more mindful before verbally committing to something? Maybe because I tend to keep my word and not promise more than I can deliver, I just think others would do the same. Maybe I expect too much, and i’m more than willing to work on that, but still, wouldn’t it be easier if everyone just kept their word? Like what about that is actually so hard? If you don’t intend to follow through, don’t say something. Or if something genuinely changes, let someone know, and if you tend to forget, find a way to remind yourself if the person (family member/friend/colleague/partner) is important enough to you, because believe me, broken promises or failure to follow through actually hurts people deeply. Whats worse is you never want to say to someone “You promised/committed/offered your energy and time to (whatever), and you haven’t done it”, because you don’t want to, nor should you have to ask people to be loyal to what comes out of their own mouths.