#nocapesforcap

counter offer: the au where dana did adopt tim and they live together after everything goes wrong and they grieve and grow together and everything is beautiful IT IS TOO LATE FOR THESE SAD FEELINGS, PRO.

Oh god it would be a beautiful mess because, quite honestly, Dana is clearly somewhat sensitive.  She had a complete mental breakdown when Jack was murdered.  (Not that she didn't have the right to grieve, and her action were clearly justified and understandable.)

And I imagine it's a lot of somewhat radical mood swings and Tim asking Dana to take her meds and good weeks and bad weeks.  Weeks where Dana starts running again and cooking healthy meals in the crock pot of their rented flat.  And then weeks where Tim pleads with Dana to get out of bed.  To take her medication and go to her therapy appointment.  To go for a walk with him.  To help him do laundry.  Something to get her up and moving instead of just laying in bed, staring at the wall.

And part of me thinks that Tim would have to lie again, about being Robin, because could Dana handle that?  Would she phase out one time and tell someone?

Or how Dana probably has PTSD, and she hears the bombs and the explosions echoing around in her head and if something is too loud, like the time the garbage truck backed up into a parked SUV and the crunch of metal and the explosion of glass sent her into a panicked tailspin.

this is awful i am sad now I BET HE DID

Tim's issues with family and his relationship with them is something that is largely looked over.  

Broad swept brush of .~*normal Robin!*~.

oH DEAR HAVE YOU BEEN THINKING ABOUT JACK DRAKE’S BAD PARENTING ALL THIS TIME

i’ve unfollowed most of marvel fandom tbh and i don’t go into the tags anymore, it’s been better for my sanity and enjoyment of the upcoming titles and films. all the needless lady bashing, just, ugh.

My dash is pretty good about not lady bashing (there's a reason I only follow a small number of people), but I encounter it sometimes anyway and it makes me so mad.

i am…so glad that i am not seeing any of this nonsense on my dash. mind if i reblog this?

Sure, go ahead.

i, for one, am shocked. SHOCKED. i never would have expected this from them!

AHHH THIS SO MUCH.

(I hope you don't mind if I publish this on my blog.  PM me and I'll take it down.)

Look, I'm not mad at Jack's reaction to being Robin.  I think it's totally normal to freak out.  But there is still things to consider, like how you can't just start and stop loving your kid.  Which is what I feel happened.  Or how about the fact that I really believe that Jack was mad because Tim was able to hide it from him for years and he was embarrassed and ashamed and I think that had a least a little bit to do with how angry he was at Tim.

Jack wanted to be a father to Tim was it was easy and he was in town.  That's now how parenting works, Mr. Drake.