hey love, i want to ask for advice since you seem to have knowledge about approaching relationships. i found out that a guy iām into is seeing someone else. weāre friends and he doesnāt know i feel this way, but i still feel a little down about it. itās not that i feel bad about myself or anything. i guess i kind of want intimacy and feel like i might be missing out on that. how do you think i should cope or reframe this?
hi love. first, iām grateful that youāre capable of stepping back and articulating your feelings with full vulnerability. iām proud of you. second, itās completely normal to feel down when you see someone youāre attracted to with someone else. itās so human. your security in yourself, your standards in relationships, and your sadness can all coexist. itās human to crave connection. observe, hold, and cherish that feeling. you canāt necessarily change the cards that have been dealt, but you can choose to give yourself gentleness and keep your heart open. nourish yourself with rest, nutrients, quality solitude time, quality friend time. know that staying patient and true to your standards will pay off some day. there is no rush, love. youāre not missing out on anything thatās for you. things of quality cannot be created with haste. for now, bask in the soft love all around you and know that it will always stay.
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Seeing bakugou bring ride or die for y/n makes me want to go back to nn days
I CANāT BELIEVE THE NUMBER NEIGHBOR DAYS IS OVER HALF A YEAR AGO NOW šš i miss it too š„ŗ it feels like it was just yesterday omg bakugou was the softesr gremlin š„ŗ
Hello! āØāØ Thank you for your answer! It was so cute! š I was wondering if you could explain how N.N./S.N. could be feel in synastry when aspecting the angles of the other person (asc/I.C./desc/M.C)??
Hey Bere!!Ā šššš OOF Iām glad we got to talk about it!!Ā šš š¤ Iāll do my best for this one too!Ā š
[Below Cut: Synastry - NN/SN šĀ aspects to AnglesĀ ]
šASCENDANT/DSC - NN/SN
So thereās a couple of different aspects right? Most commonly people like to look at conjuncts/oppositions, but squares and sextiles can be important too.Ā
Iām going to explain it all in strides, so bear with me if itās a bit long ok askdnff
ASC conjunct NN/SN (opposite DSC)Ā ā mostly affects the SN/NN person where they feel comfortable around the ASC person. Since itās the opposite to their DSC, the Angle person might feel more like they have a lot in common with the NN/SN and thusā their differences can be stark/harder to resolve as well (tries to assimilate NN/SN to themselves)
Thereās a natural chemistry, a gravity towards each other. Imagine like, finding someone who justĀ āclicksā with you the right way, it makes one protective of the person but also doesnāt really understand them completely (because y know, NN/SN is the nodal axis, so itās going to bring movement, while the Angles stay stagnant).Ā Ā
The closer the orb is, the moreĀ āpersonal identificationā they will have with the person.Ā Iām thinking of SN specifically, which too much of this can be toxic *but not usually if itās done well.Ā Ā
For the NN person, the ASC provides a sense ofĀ āreliefā ā like aĀ āreleaseā from their usual routine/person and aĀ āflowingā of energy through being around them, being in their presence. The NN opposite to the DSC sees their inner-self, their inner reflection. One thing that could come from this is that the NN shines aĀ ālightā on the DSC so the ASC will have to confront (āI am me and I have to love who I amā) as well.Ā
The ASC person gainsĀ ādirectionā from the Nodal Axis, remember that Nodal Axis are Lunar Nodes. So itās like a sandwich, layering the ASC either as a top bun or a bottom bun.
The ASC is the meat, make sure that if itās the bottom bun it doesnāt get soggy. And if itās the top bun, that it the meat doesnāt fall out/feel unsupported too much.
ASC square NN/SNĀ (also* square DSC)- love this, kind of challenging. Bantering quality to it. Itās a teasing kind of dynamic, where you playĀ ārun catchā with each other. Make sure not to do it too much though, since it can lead to complications later/no where productive if each side doesnāt know how toĀ ātouchā each other once in a while (make contact/emphasize/understand each other and support them)
Unlike the earlier Conjunct/Opposition, this square is mutual to both ASC/DSC so thereās no danger ofĀ āidentifying too much with one side over the otherā hereā the NN/SN is an autonomous person, independentā which is why they bring motion to them (and a certain respect from the Angles person)
NN/SN is the one thatĀ ārunsā. Its kind of like tag? They tag the ASC and then they flounder away.Ā ācatch me!ā and the only clue you get is their giggle/laugh coming from a direction. To the NN/SN person, the ASC is theĀ āchallengeāā watch that they donāt want toĀ āchangeā orĀ ādragā them too much (NN/SN to ASC) if they learn how to understand/emphasize/touch the ASC personā they can support this relationship better as well.
The Angle person is the one who gains a lot from this relationship, often time because itās squareā theyāre usually up for the challenge (if their other placements indicate that as well). They see the opportunity, the goal in mind and they go for it. They donāt mind the hardship as long as they can progress/become better. Because see, the end goal for them is to reach the MC (so self-development/improvement is always appreciated)
ASC opposition NN/SNĀ (conjunct. DSC)Ā - this is more of a ātouch but doesnāt know how to let goā situation. Where theyāre on a push/pull tug of war, on one hand that means the NN/SN would be conjunct to the DSC and that would mean the ASC is constantly desiring/looking to the NN/SN to be theĀ āidealā kind of person for them (whether itās platonic/romantic/etc.)Ā
Thereās a desire to be there, get there. Climb over the rope and just reach out to touch them from the Angle person. The NN/SN is both there and not there at the same time. They are reflective of the parts the Angle person is missing/wants to have in their person, but at the same time they have to discover that inside of themselves.
The SN/NN person feels the same about the Angle person, this is probably the most?? Equalized relationship where they both reflectĀ ādesireā in each other. Because the NN/SN is conjunct to the DSC, thereās a sense ofĀ āknowingā someone or the Angle person letting them knowĀ āthey hit the nail on the spotā.
Because the NN/SN is in opposition of the ASC, they may admire the ASC/want to be there. It could also indicate polarizing relationship, where one partner wants the other but the emotion/desire isnāt receptive on the otherās end.
ASC/DSC- sextile- NN/SN - whether it swings by the ASC or the DSC, with sextile and trine in particular the degrees (more exact it is) is important. ASC sextile NN/SN brings an element of support, not necessarily romantic or sexual or desirable but itās good for building a relationship. DSC sextile NN/SN may tend to be more private, more emotional support than ASC but itās still a good building block as well. The NN/SN person doesnāt do much but encourage the ASC/DSC person, perhaps if you feel like thereās a strong attraction to themā it might be something else in the chart/asteroids?Ā
ASC/DSC - trine - NN/SN - pretty good to be honest? Nothing much to say because this is a naturalized reaction. Like thereās not a lot of options to choose from in the 12 zodiacs, so youāll most likely going to have this with someone you already know already as well.Ā
šĀ IC/MC - NN/SN
Next we get to the IC/MC aspects to NN/SN, again like the ASC/DSC we can group some of them together as well.
IC Conjunct NN/SN (opposition MC) - because the nodes are lunar nodes, the SN/IC conjunct is particularly powerful. Itāll be hard to deny the attraction (not necessarily romantic, sometimes it can be just ādo I know youā because of the āfamilialā bondā especially with the SN), the comfortability and understanding between them. Both the IC person and the SN person will be magnetized towards each other because theyāre comfortable with each other.Ā
On the other hand, if itās the NN conjunct to ICā itās a release of past experience, of the roots of experiences. NN brings clarity and regeneration to the IC, like a good spring cleaning. Itās a miracle to have the NN in their life although if badly aspected (with other placements) it might cause problems/uncomfortable being in theĀ ābottom of the skyā.Ā
Meanwhile, NN-opposition MC will question and frustrate the MC. Mostly because the direction they lead are different. The Angle person feels like their insides may be cleaned out but after that, they get an overbearing Mum instead. The NN person may tend to nag, question them or directly oppose/try to present something that the MC may feelĀ āhinderā them instead. The directions are different, but theyāll work through it because of the conjunction anyways.
On the other hand, if the SN is in opposition to the MCā the MC will take on the protective role, kind of likeĀ āthis is my roots/representation of my past and I will guide themā somewhat. They become Baby. Or someone who they can learn from. The MC personĀ ārevisitsā themselves and their vulnerabilities every time they meet the SN person, the SN teaches them how things couldāve gone differently, how they could better themselves without being too intrusive.Ā
For the Nodal Person, the MC represents someone to teach, someone to learn and guidance to them. Nagging, bantering are often, but itās mostly done in a familial sort of way.Ā
IC/MC square NN/SN - the Angles being square to the Nodal axis might mean itās pretty close to the ASC/DSC as well, this is pretty important because thereās a ā four way dynamic going on here.Ā
First of all, If the NN/SN are squares to the IC/MC then the person would represent more of autonomous figureā like someone elseās ASC/DSC added to their own chart. It bothĀ ācompletesā the wheel, so thereās a natural self-identity to the figure.Ā
At the same time, these Nodal People brings a lot more configuration/self-evaluation to them as well. Because it would be conjunct/opposition to their ASC/DSC so the Nodal Person Knows Who They Are Externally, but Internally/how they workā theyāll point out things that will benefit the Angle person without inserting/intruding them too much into it.
Itās both personal AND impersonal, unlike the ASC/DSC square where things FEELS personal/like anĀ āattackā to their person (on the horizon, thatās where we lie most consciously) the IC and MC are harder to reach because it showsĀ āpotential/past-futureā. So in a way,Ā the NN/SN person shows us cryptic ways to improve ourselves internally (IC) and exploit it in our future possibilities as well (MC)
The Square aspect of it has more do to with missing emotionality, as inā it can feel a bit impersonal/vague in a way. Because itās probably aspecting ASC/DSC tooā the emotions are wrapped up in those aspects and the IC/MC are more like undercurrents thatās happening/supporting all the thing that goes on there.Ā
Imagine like, Yoda or a Guide Character who helps you by giving you clues on what to do. Thatās what it feels like for the IC/MC person.
As for the NN/SN personā again, theyāre probably wrapped up in the drama ASC/DSC has for them. But underneath that, theĀ ācoreā of the problem stems from the squares to the IC/MC. Once they realize that itās because they represent ALL FOUR Angles to them, the past, present future. They become sort of transcendental. They exists neither here nor there. Theyāre representative of what they could be, as well as what they have been. The Angles person is the one who has to make up their mind about what the problem is/where it stems from, so that the NN/SN person can point out the way to resolve it truthfully/honestly.Ā
IC opposition NN/SN (conjunct MC) -Ā on the other end of the spectrum, here we have the ASC/DSC square to NN/SN while its in opposition to the IC. So here with the IC opposition to NN/SN ā the NN/SN person may shine a light/expose the IC of the person toĀ āfuture possibilitiesā or movement. Whether or not they take it is up to them, but unlike IC conjunct NN (opposition MC) the NN/SN person wonāt try to reprimand/nag the IC/MC person.Ā
NN conjunct to MC is actually really good, not only is it directional/movement is supportedā itās also aligned to each other. This way thereās less bickering, more teamwork. A lot of partnership/supportive energy towards anĀ āend goalā togetherā usually with more objectivity to them.
SN conjunct to MC shines more light on the IC, in this case itās showing the IC ways to heal, like emotional balance/nurture and guidance, itās the Moon that shines over the lake at night.Ā
IC opposition to the NN/SN is mostly comfortable, the only thing about it is that it can be overlooked under everything, the NN/SN person may pull them away from theirĀ ārootsā whatever that may be, habits are hard to break, and if the IC struggles it can be irreparable.
IC/MC sextile NN/SN - Again, this is pretty good? In a subtle way, this is usually underrated. The NN/SN person doesnāt really serve much of a purpose here for the MC/ICā but they are good supplements for them to feelĀ ārealignedā with themselves if they ever need it. Itās like if you feelĀ āburnt outā orĀ āstrandedā orĀ āfrazzledā ā the NN/SN person are good at instinctively knowing what to do to help, or learn quickly how to do so.
IC/MC trineĀ NN/SN -Ā again, like the ASC/DSC earlier, itās pretty good! I mean with this, itās more about feeling comfortable/supported with each other. Like someoneās finally in your court. Sneaky side-glances, eye contact level communication. Usually non-verbal communication is common between them. Fondness and foundation of trust/support helps build this relationship as well.Ā
This turned out pretty lengthy, but I hope it makes sense!Ā š To summarize, ASC/DSC is more like theĀ āpresentā self, most of our emotional response and immediate actions are related towards it. IC/MC are like our objectivity, ourĀ āpast-futureā. The effect that the Nodal Axis has on it is usually focused on conjunct to each angles, since that can exemplifyĀ āwhatā type of relationship we have with each other. Each pole of the Nodal Axis is (like the name) an Axis itself. So Itās like overlaying Axis together.
I think some of the spiritual elements to Nodal Axis might be interesting, but for nowĀ š This is like theĀ āpracticalā approach to Nodes in Synastry Aspected to Angles. I hope this helpsĀ šĀ
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