#niskaschaeffer

Hey! So I wanna start by saying that this isn’t a weird question AT ALL. I’ve also struggled with this a lot in the past, especially when I first realised I was a trans guy, and it’s a valid worry that a lot of people have.

Honestly, I don’t think there’s any reason to feel differently about F/F relationships in media unless you yourself are treating them differently. If you’re behaving towards them in exactly the same way as you did before you came out, then I don’t see anything wrong with that.

I know for me personally (and potentially for a lot of other trans guys), F/F pairings were a big part of my initial coming out process. Before I realised that I was male, I identified as a gay/queer woman for a very long time. Queer female couples helped me accept myself during that time, and they reflected a life that I dreamed of one day having myself - me being male doesn’t negate the impact that that representation had on me, and honestly, even now I still feel the most connected to F/F couples in media.

Obviously you’re not expected to do anything you don’t feel comfortable doing, but if you’d still like to write F/F fics in a respectful and nice way, then I don’t see anything wrong with that.

Overcoming the weird feelings can be tough, but you have to remember that we aren’t seeing these couples through the same eyes as cis men; I feel as though (most) trans guys have a deep connection to F/F rep because, well, that was OUR rep before we realised our gender identities. So, like I said, as long as you aren’t fetishising or disrespecting these pairings, then I don’t think there’s anything wrong with loving and supporting women who love each other.