#nicecauses

This post doesn't have anything to do with nonprofits or causes or even doing anything bigger than oneself. It's about reminding myself to "never say never" again. Why do we say that, ever? It always comes back to bite me like the time I said I would never move back to my home town once I left. Twenty years later my senior mother needs me, I've gone through a divorce and so the logical choice was move 500 miles back to my hometown, which was strangely different than when I left. And while starting over was really difficult, especially the new career, I purchased my own home, gained some great skills and met my new husband.

The other time I shouldn't have said "never" had to do with meeting my husband. I said I would never date anyone off the internet. But when I had to work all day and nurse my mother back to some semblence of health after congestive heart failure, I said, "Oh what the heck, I'll try it". I was burning out from no social life and even in a town of 100,000 it was hard to meet people. My girlfriend did it for a year and I used to giggle over her stories at lunch. I was picky, he was less picky, and that's when we met. Two weeks later we were off the "match" site and 2-1/2 years later we were married.