Hi, I have no idea how long this is gonna be i just need to rant and get some advice. I met a guy today in a pokemonGO meetup hosted by a nearby gaming shop. That guy’s like 2 years older than me –I’m 14- and we’ve been part of the same school for a couple of years. I never talked to him back then, I had no reason to. And today we met and he’s really friendly, you know fellow gamer, anime nerd, he’s also the first cosplayer I met outside of cons. But near the end, when we got by his home
(2)home cuz we were walking home and his house is closer to the game shop than mine, but in the same direction, we ended up talking about love life, he was saying stuff like “you haven’t lived if you haven’t had a boyfriend/your first kiss”. And I’m ready for a boyfriend, I just don’t want it to be a random guy I met that same day. And stuff like “where have you been all my life, you’re also nerd, a gamer, you’re pretty,…” And I’m smiling on the outside but on the inside I just wanna change
(3)subjects. He’s a nice guy-that’s all. We exchanged phone numbers and stuff and we kept on talking about cosplay and such and the last text message I get was “I thing I’ve looked into your eyes for too long” And my stupid ass just repied “umh, okay?” And I don’t know what to do, I want to keep him as a friend- for now,I don’t know what’ll happen- but I’m also kinda afraid. He seems nice but he’s 2 years older, like 7cm (3inches?) bigger than me and he seems way stronger than me.
(4) . It’s kinda intimidating when he’s tryna make a move on you when you barely know him. What do I do? (Sorry for it being so long, the persons I'd normally talk to about this are on a trip to Africa and such and I don't know what to do)
Hey! I’m really sorry it’s taken me so long to reply and I really hope things have been ok in the time between then and now!Â
I think you need to trust your gut with this situation! If you’re uncomfortable with this sort of attention then that’s totally ok and you don’t need to sugarcoat that! You don’t owe anyone anything and you’re your top priority. A lot of times (not to generalize but I’ve had a lot of similar experiences) guys will try to put you on a pedestal by saying that you’re a really rare commodity for being into nerdy stuff and gaming, and that’s sort of cringey in my opinion haha, and the fact that he’s older than you is a little bit of a red flag. However, you know this situation best, so you’ll know what the best course of action is!Â
Trust yourself honey, if you’re not comfortable then that’s an important message to listen to! If you just want to be friends, you can indicate that to this person (if you feel comfortable doing that) and if he’s a good guy then he’ll understand and respect your boundaries. If you don’t feel comfortable/if he doesn’t stop coming onto you, then you’ll just have to distance yourself and try to cut that relationship off.Â
Just trust yourself and be cautious! I wish you the best
