#n-garde

Awwh thank you <3 I’ll just bullet point facts to make it easier:

Are long-time planners; they make plans for things far in the future (big ideas) and then add the details later (steps to help them reach their goals).

Despite them thinking about stuff far away in the future, don’t expect them to know exactly what they want to be right off the bat. They know exactly what they don’t want but have a harder time grasping what they do (lack of Fi). This is why INFJs typically have a main idea of what they are interested in doing (albeit it may be several different areas), and they narrow down their options as they gain more information about it. This is basically the difference between Ni and Ne. 

Example of Ni: Imagine that you’re drawing a face. You start off with the basic shape of the face so that you know what your boundary is. Then you go add sub-features such as the shape of the eyes and nose. Lastly you go in add the essential details such as shading and extra lines. Now you have fully visualized exactly what is you were drawing. {You start off with the main idea and then start getting specific. Closure is found.}

Example of Ne: Imagine drawing a tree. You start off drawing the base of the trunk and then start drawing branches. These branches then keep going on and splitting into more branches and more branches and the only way you remember what you were drawing originally is when you backtrack and follow the branches back to the trunk (Si). {You start off with one idea but instead of finding closure, you keep on connecting it to more ideas.}

Tend to talk/write in a philosophical or profound tone. This is why most INFJ’s tend to be really good at poetry. But can only express themselves fully with people their close with. Don’t expect an INFJ to contemplate about humanity’s existence with the stranger next to them in the subway. You can’t really notice their Ni unless you’re close to them. It’s often best expressed in their writing. They are warm and friendly, but they’re the kind of people who will make you subconsciously reveal your personal thoughts without them revealing anything about themselves.

Oh another thing (I’m not sure if other INFJs do this as well…), I like keeping a journal to organize my thoughts. But instead of writing about how my day went, I usually only write about the particularly important events that happened that day. I won’t ever write about what I did at school, etc. I only write about my dreams and what I hope to accomplish in the future. The past is something that I rarely ever write about. 

They’re the kind of people who can adapt their body language and speech to fit whoever their talking to. And this doesn’t just go for people the same age vs adults, they act differently around people their age as well. When they meet someone new, they imitate that person’s way of talking and are pretty much analyzing them to see what kind of person they are. If they see that they can be comfortable around that person, you’ll be able to see them peel off layers of their personality one by one. 

INFJ’s are known for having layers to their personalty like onions. They’ll have assigned layers to different people and this will dictate how they act around them. For example, someone who they are not comfortable around at all will just be able to see the outer layer of their personality, whereas around close friends and family, they’ll strip their layers considerably and let them in on their thoughts and dreams (they only do this with people they absolutely trust). They peel off layers as they get to know someone and decide just how much they can handle. I, for example, have an ENFJ friend who I’m comfortable expressing my thoughts to but only to a business extent. I can never joke around with her and never ever express my personal thoughts on a particular subject (even things like my musical preferences) just because she tends to be pretty judgmental

They tend to be objective (more so as their Ti develops). Although people may say they are stubborn, they can actually change their viewpoint if someone provides valid reasons for them to. When they put their faith and trust in someone or something, know that is extremely important to them and they will not back down when it’s being degraded or put on the line. 

They tend to not hold grudges. Because they’re mainly focused on the future, they won’t pay the past any importance. Also, they tend to be able to foresee their relationships with other people. If they can’t see a relationship with someone lasting in the future, then they won’t try and pursue it. 

They tend to be able to make spot-on observations about people they don’t know personally, They’ll be able to correctly make personal observations about the kind of person someone is (Ni) by observing them stealthily and noticing little things they do or say (Se). 

One con about this is that if I haven’t ever talked to the person before, I might have a preconceived image of them in my head which may or may not be accurate. I have been chastised for being judgmental sometimes. 

They are very empathetic and can feel and can understand where other people are coming from even if they haven’t personally experienced it (Fe). They can also tell when someone’s being sincere or not and will act accordingly. 

Because of their ability to see stuff from other people’s perspectives, it can be hard for them to truly dislike someone. For example, if a person gets accused of bullying someone, at first they’ll be extremely adamant about disliking them. But as they learn about how that person had been abused as a child, they’ll grow more sympathetic and will question whether it’s right for them to be so mad at them. They do believe that bullying is wrong but perhaps the bully turned out that way because of the lack of love he received as a child. Us INFJs have the hardest time with this but it gets better as our Ti develops.