#myneed2talk

Okay, so this is one of the most frequently asked questions when it comes to human interactions. And recently it has come to mind quite a lot. So I decided to perform a simple experiment with the children & teens I’m working with, I just ask that question an try to memorize the answers.

And you know what ?almost all of them were the same, not difficult to guess:

‘’Fine’’

You know, I always thought that fine is a magic word, it is riddle material and now i’m gonna show you why

‘’What is the word in which one can say everything and anything at all?’’

Yeah, you got it right , fine.  

This answer is a good foundation for the second question:

‘’ How’s that?’’ , and I keep staring at them while they do the same in the ‘’ she-is-crazy-or-what’’ way but i just remind silent while looking at them . Now the responses are a bit different and can be classified in 2 ways:

1.-Don’t know

2.-* shrugs *

(or both)

So it is quite curious that lots of them are not conscious about why they are feeling that way, how their body reacts , how it changes their perception.  But in contrast, they are expected to know how to behave in certain places, and be able to control and manage their own body and mind. And then it is my turn to ask a general question:  How?

The first emotion babies learn to understeand  is happiness, or mom's smiling face. Basic emotions such as sadness, nervousness, fear,are one of the most simple that children learn to identify. If one pays enough attention, it can be seen that children tend to express their emotions whenever they learn them, sometimes can be funny to see how a small kid tend to frown their forehead when something it's not what they would like to be. By observing, first our parents, and then the people that sorround us , we can know what is socially acceptable or correct, and sometimes we have to hide our emotions in order to fill with that requirements, but what happens when we bury  what we feel in a particular situation, and later, we don't let them go out?

At first ,nothing . I't just one thing, just the tears we repress to come out when something has made us sad, or maybe the happiness to see a cute dog from the window of our work. The problem comes when to this emotion, another ones follow, and little by little we fill our ''empty glass' , adn then , it comes the day when the glass is full and can't contain anything more, so the water spills out everywhere.

Some people said that someone who expresses their emotions openly is quite weak and everybody could take advantage of him/her easily. In my opinion , we need to let ourselves to be more free sometimes. If  you feel that something it's not fair, you have the right to feel wrath, if something is quite sad, you have the right to feel bad in that moment, the same goes with hapiness , laughing.....it's important not to restrain ourselves from feeling, but it's also important too not to let the emotions control us. To feel bad sometimes is quite normal,,  not everything that happens to a person is good, we have to go thorugh that feeling, because is what the moment requires, and then, once we have assimilate it,  let us feel another emotion that comes in that moment.