“ A few years ago, some parents rang me up and they said that their teenage son had run away from home after he had been caught smoking weed and they wanted me to speak to him and tell him to come back. It took a very long time, but I managed to locate him and speak to him. He was about 13 years old and he spoke to me about how he began smoking weed and doing other things like drinking because he was sick of seeing family problems in his home. . He said that his parents were fighting, splitting up and getting back together. He said that he saw abuse, anger and resentment, and what hurt him the most was that nothing which he learnt in Madrassah was ever seen in his home. . There was no praying, no one opened the Qur'an and no one gave salam. There was just jumm'ah and suhur/iftar in Ramadan. He called it hypocrisy and he preferred to being a complete chiller than to be a hypocrite. Anyway, I managed to get him back home and things remained stable. . Dear mum and dad, the home is the greatest madrassah. If you don’t put the prayer mat down yourself then don’t expect your kid to do it. Your job is not just to slave in the dunya from 7am to 6pm to feed your families. Allah is the Razzaq. Your job is to also give time to your children and teach them who your Lord is. - Shaykh Mohammad Aslam • Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said: “How many people have caused misery to their own children, the apples of their eyes, in this world and in the Hereafter, by neglecting them, . not disciplining them, encouraging them to follow their whims and desires, thinking that they were honouring them when they were in fact humiliating them, that they were being merciful to them when in fact they were wronging them. . They have not benefited from having a child, and they have made the child lose his share in this world and in the Hereafter. If you think about the corruption of children you will see that in most cases it is because of the parents.” (Tuhfat al-Mawlood, p. 146) @workforjannah
