not every two people are the same so I cannot say for sure that my reason for distancing from love would be the same as hers.

for me, it didn't work because of timing. the love i write about came to me at a time when i wasn't ready for it to become serious, while my partner was confident in the future they were hoping to build. our priorities misaligned, so unfortunately we had to let one another go. i'm left with bittersweet feelings because i never had the courage to confess why i was afraid of their fast pace, and they didn't have the patience to wait for me to grow comfortable enough to explain all the emotional baggage and fears holding me back.

i'm no love expert whatsoever but i think there should be a good balance between encouraging communication, and understanding the need for breathing space in a relationship. try to talk to your girl when she is in the mood to talk, but don't pressure her to open up as it may just push her further away. when she is comfortable, i'm sure she'll share her thoughts with you.