Disabled people do not get the same right to be impolite as abled people have.
we should always aim to be respectful towards each other + be polite when appropriate, with some exceptions of course. you do not have to be polite or respectful towards bigots, to hateful people, to people who have harmed you or others etc.
but not everyone can afford to be impolite towards a hateful person or a bigot or a person who’s harmed others in some way.
disabled people, and especially moderately-severely disabled people cannot afford to be impolite towards people who are harming us, simply because we rely so much on other people to be able to survive.
if i am impolite in some way to my mom who controls my finances, that could really fuck me over.
if i am impolite in some way to a healthcare worker who is in charge of my care, that could really fuck me over.
if i am impolite in some way to anyone responsible for my care, for maintaining my home, for controlling my finances, literally anything: that could REALLY fuck me over.
and i don’t mean being rude or impolite for no reason, i still would not be able to be impolite or rude towards a healthcare worker who is treating me like garbage, because that could make it worse and as a very disabled person who can’t survive without others support that is genuinely life or death.
people NEED to take this into account, everyone can’t just be an asshole back to the person treating them like shit, it could be so dangerous. and this again, is twice as dangerous for more severely disabled people who are more vulnerable and depend on others to stay alive.