#mobile activity

9. Is your muse attracted to any particular features?

About physical appearance, beyond secretly liking to be the smaller one of the pair, she loves expressive eyes and specific details or flaws that make "define" the other one - scars, piercings, tattoos, freckles, specific hair or beard styles, or other things like vastayan features.

If we talk about attitudes, she's always been attracted to more dominant figures that could represent a guide or a protector. She's been into this for more than she can remember.

15. Would your muse ever tempt their partner, e.g. flirting, wearing tight/sexy clothing?

WEEK 4 ACTIVITY: Mobile Activity

Escape

I really liked the idea of the Deep Ethnography activity, so I derived an activity with a similar theme. I think its wonderful to ask students in this age to go without technology for an evening but society has become so dependent on technology that it is becoming increasingly more difficult to participate in the activity. Going without screens and electricity might seem like a punishment, but I think its really more of an escape from the stresses of life. Without a smartphone, laptop or TV, you can almost escape responsibilities and the pressures of society.

This week, my boyfriend and I visited the El Dorado Nature Center and went on a beautiful walk. The path came to an area circled and shaded by trees. There was a bench in the center and the two of us sat, quiet at some times and talking about whatever came to mind at others. I didn’t pull out my phone until we were ready to continue walking. We almost left without snapping a quick photo for memories. In the moments of sitting there in the quiet, I felt no stress, no pressure, no responsibilities. This helped me to develop this week’s mobile activity.

My activity is to find an escape from everyday life. It can be away from technology, but it doesn’t have to be. I urge the other students to find whatever it is that relaxes them. It could be out and about, at home, by themselves, or with a particular person. It could be out in nature or shopping, or at home playing video games or cooking. Whatever it is that helps you to escape, do it. Then, document it. Take pictures, sketch or whatever helps promote the idea of escape. (I wish I had a sketch book that day at the Nature Center so that I wouldn’t have even had to take out my phone, but I wasn’t planning on having that urge.) After taking part in the experience portion of the activity, it is important to reflect. I want to know what exactly it is you are escaping from and how your experience helps you to get away from those things.

For example, if I were to have completed my activity at the Nature Center, I would reflect on now nature is my escape. I don’t get out into nature often enough but I always feel so carefree and relaxed. I feel like I need to escape the stresses of being in school or the obligations to my friends and family. Even though I generally enjoy school and I love my friends and family, there are a lot of negative stressors there. Also since struggling with mental disorders and low self-confidence, I often feel a lot of social pressures. I worry about my outfits and if I look skinny enough, I worry about if I’m having the appropriate amount of fun when I’m out and if I’ll suddenly decide I’d rather be in bed. The constant notifications from my Instagram, Facebook, and email accounts keep me tied to my phone and stressing about how I appear to other people. I go out on hikes or to nice parks to get away from all those things. When I sat there on that bench, I felt none of these worries. All that mattered was that nothing else mattered. I was sitting with my favorite person who would never even dream of judging me in a place where no one else was around to care about what I looked like. The weight of life was off my shoulders for that short time. I had no makeup on, I was wearing my comfy clothes, I was sweaty, and I was happy.