#mo things

Quebaa and her big buddy Borvo (who belongs to @slacktivities) >:3 

and a bonus:

The first step would be to discover you have a problem and ask a question. The question we will use going through the steps will be, “What will happen if I tell Aaron how I really feel?”. I figured I did something quick and easy for how I used it with pork chops in the discussion, this one took a bit more time.

The second step is to form a hypothesis about what you believe will happen in the situation you named in question one. For me, my thought was, “He will abandon me and we will no longer be friends”. This situation came about as prompting from my best friend because I am not very assertive. You could say she did the experiment with me because her hypothesis was, “He will respect your opinion and stop doing the ‘thing’ that hurts your feelings.” So, same interaction that would happen but different results expected from two parties.

The third step is actually conduct the experiment. For this one, I spoke to the person that was hurting my feelings while it was happening to explain how it was making me feel. I knew from previous ‘experiments’ that staying silent did not modify the behavior. Previous attempts with the experiment being “Stay silent because they will realize they are hurting you without you saying.” ended up with the problem still continuing. Since I had been employing the first method in the time span of a few months, I resolved to do this one the same.

The fourth step was to see what results were brought on by the remark of my words. I changed the variable from staying silent to speaking out about what had hurt me. The result was my ex-husband choosing to twist my words around so the blame for my hurt feelings would be placed on me. Responsibility would not be accepted and anger arose out of being confronted with it. The months that I kept the variable the same, ie: telling him when something he did or said hurt me, the anger rose and he got verbally angry before becoming very distant and pulling back. The anger had changed to indifference. The subject no longer cared that he was hurting my feelings and did not react in a way that showed he understood something was wrong.

Analyze my results, is the final step. Normally, if something did not go right, you would proceed back to one and change the variable to get a different result. I know this is talking about another human being and emotions but psychology is a science as well. This went through my process of a second experiment. The constant was his actions of disregarding my feelings and the variable was my staying silent or speaking out. I had went through the silent one for too long, the speaking one did have the effect I thought of in my hypothesis. We are no longer friends and the abandoning of friendship happened. My best friend was sorry that her thoughts weren’t what happened.

I spent my morning with Steve

I won a $10 gift card to Wings over Amherst

Free coffee from starbucks

new education class is really easy

got Matt and Sean to watch Wreck it Ralph

I GOT INTO THE ONE CREDIT MOTHERFUCKING SEMINAR SO I CAN STAY A FULL TIME STUDENT AND HOLY SHIT IM SO MOTHERFUCKING HAPPY

ahem

because i have lost control of my life