#misty rambles

Legend: Sugar

Reader: Pumpkin

Legend: Sweetums

Reader: Pookie

Legend: Angel bunny

Reader: Snookums

Legend: Sweet ass

Reader: Bunny bear

Legend: little boo-beery

Reader: That was terrible omg-

This is NOT an angry post or meant to belittle. This is me talking to you about things I wish people had talked to me about and explaing why smut if MDNI

This is also NOT an invitation to follow this blog as a minor. This post is a single exception, I still do not want minors to follow me or interact with ANY other post here.

I want to start this by saying that I recognize that once I put my work out, I don't get to control who sees it. I know that by posting my smut/ NSFW works, I run the risks of minors finding and consuming it.

However, while I don't get to control who sees it I do get to control how I let it be interacted with. I have the ability to block ageless blogs or blogs that are clearly marked with the age of a minor. I have the ability to keep my Smut/ NSFW works on a side blog to help those who don't want to see it be able to enjoy my SFW works in peace.

I'm not sure how many people have actually talked to you about why so many creators are so against minors interacting with and consuming their works. So I will.

Sex, arousal, and kinks are natural. I'm sure you took a health class about the sex stuff even if the kinks weren't covered. I'm not here to shame you for your interest in that. As long as everyone involved consents there is no issue, but you'll notice most smut is marked Minors Do Not Interact. (Which is the creator saying they do NOT consent to your interaction.)

Something that everyone, of any age, should know and understand is that a LOT of the time porn and smut are written to be sexy, but not exactly realistic. Most male genitalia will NOT be 18 inches, that's terrifying in a realistic setting and probably dangerous.

A lot of the time porn and smut will focus on a market or niche and while there's nothing wrong with that it should NOT be your introduction to or education about sex. Sometimes something seems sexy in theory but just isn't in reality but if the only real expose you have to sex is porn and smut, you might be holding the experience to unrealistic standards.

The first time you have sex is never going to be perfect. Nobody is amazing their first time. And sometimes the porn and smut world makes things seem easier and safe than they are.

Bandage, especially suspension bondage, can be dangerous. Breath play can be dangerous. You can tear when having penatrative sex. These topics aren't often covered in smut or porn, and while that is usually to make things sexier if they're your only education, it can be dangerous.

Also, as someone who was in spaces I should not have been in, sometimes as a minor on the internet you will find people who want to hurt you or use you. It is not a pretty topic, but it's the truth. And while a lot of time you'll find NSFW creators actively discourage minor interaction sometimes you find predators that make you feel seen. It's hard to feel suspicious when someone makes you feel seen.

I want all of you to understand that there are boundaries around age and sexual content for reasons. It isn't because everyone over eighteen hates minors, or because we think you're stupid.

The boundaries are there to try to help protect you and ourselves alike. We don't want minors being taught about sex by the porn or smut medias and we don't want to be put in a position to EVER make it easier for predators to hurt you.

If ALL NSFW creators started encouraging minors to interact or even just tolerating it, it would get a lot harder to identify those with bad intentions.

There are other reasons as well for other creators. I can't say my viewpoint is the only one.

Frankly I don't want minors interacting with my works for all of the above reasons but also because it feels weird. I refuse to write about minors because they're kids. It seems wrong to let minors interact with my smut if I won't write them into it.

Finally I recognize that you're going to do what you want anyway. I will continue to block minors and ageless blogs that interact with this account outside of this single post.

If you're going to engage in sexual activity of any kind, please do some sort of research. Regardless of my discomfort with minors consuming smut, kink, or porn it is more important to me that you are safe.

Condoms are important whether you can get pregnant or not. STDs are a thing.

Kink should be researched and properly negotiated to where everyone participating is consenting and comfortable. Safe words or signs are important and should be respected.

You have the right to tell people no.

Now, I hope that this explains things to you all in ways that makes sense. None of this is meant to belittle you. These are all things that I wish I'd been told.