#macrobfriends

Hey there,

It can seem annoying and unthoughtful to not have the help you have given to them be reciprocated.

“The two things in life you are in total control over are your attitude and your effort.“ (Billy Cox) and from what I can gather, you are considerate in helping this person. However, as quote states, we cannot control the actions of other people. As much as it’d be great for this other person to make appropriate use of your help by providing their own, in the end it just shows that they aren’t as helpful or cooperative or generous as we’d like them to be. It’s up to you to decide if you think you would rather not continue helping them, or if you’d prefer to go to other people for help. This doesn’t mean to stop being friends with them, but you know to not rely on them too much. We hope this quote has helped ease your feelings.

Hey there,

We understand how conflicting and hard this must be for you. The best thing to do would probably be to talk to him about it. Although you may feel awkward not knowing where he stands with you and worried about ruining a friendship, the only way for you to know for sure is for him to tell you himself and the only way that can happen is if you bring it up with him. Don’t be afraid to be open and put all the cards on the table. You might like to start by saying something along the lines of ‘hey i’ve been thinking about something that I wanted to talk to you about’.

Remember that these things only work if you talk and are honest both with yourself and to him. This of course goes the other way as well so when you bring it up be sure to remind him to be honest to you because you deserve at least that much.

If you’re truly unsure, maybe wait it out a bit and see how you feel because these feelings could be temporary and we’re sure you don’t want to accidentally ruin the start of a friendship due to feelings of uncertainty.

Good luck,

Hey there,

We’re sure the person you are thinking of would love it if you just came up to them and said hey. Of course, if they seems to be occupied with something it’s super hard and daunting sometimes to just walk up to them. Perhaps you could contact them first via social media if you happen to know if they have it and if you’ve got their social media handles? Another alternative, as somewhat daggy as it might be, would be to get in touch through email. It might seem strange but you never know, they might appreciate that someone has taken the time out of their day to send a message.

Even though though they may seem to be preoccupied at times when you see them around school, even just approaching them and giving a compliment or saying something short like ‘hey I’ve seen you around a lot and I just wanted to say ____’.

Year 12s don’t have much time left so we hope you get the chance to make your impression and do whatever it is you plan on doing. Also, don’t be afraid to put yourself out there because remember that we’re all people simply going through different stages of the same process – the process being school (and in a sense it can be extended to life as well) so no matter who you are or what year level you’re in, to an extent, we’re all the same and here at FAM we’re sure that person would love for you to come up to them and have a chat.

Good luck,

Hey,

Honestly, I totally know how you feel. I have also been in the position where I feel like I am doing so many things for other people, only for me to still feel like I am alone. And it is NOT a nice feeling. My advice for you would be to find happiness within yourself. Do things for yourself and stop doing so many things for other people. Take some time to do what YOU love and what makes YOU happy. It may feel good at the time to do things for other people but true happiness can only be found within yourself. And I am sure that these friends of yours do really care about you, they just might not be showing it in the way that you do.

Take care of yourself!

Hey there!

Aw we’re sorry to hear that! Hm well in that situation maybe it’s best to give both of yourselves some time. Now that he’s heard you out, he may keep that in mind and reconsider, you never know. As you’re both still decent friends, I’d say keep the friendship going. Over time, we all change, and I bet you are interesting in your own way so don’t talk yourself down. You may change and evolve in your own unique way and he may like that, so don’t worry. But even if he doesn’t, just stay true to yourself – if he isn’t the one for you then that’s okay too! As well as that, if you really want to, maybe start making a few new friends, as once again you never know, there may be someone else out there that fits you better ;)

Hope this helps!

Hey there,

We’re sorry to hear that. Know that these things do happen and it’s okay to feel the way that you do. This might be something you need to bring up with your friend but first evaluate the reasons as to why you feel like talking to her is a chore. Is it that the conversations are uninteresting? Is she unsupportive? Are you more tired? Whatever the reason might be, find out what it is just to give yourself a bit of clarity as to why you feel this way.

If you’re adamant on not being friends with her but you don’t want to explicitly say it to her, you can always slowly start to distance yourself by saying ‘Hey I’m going to hang out with ___ today” or “I was actually planning on doing this today”. Remember you have no obligation to be friends with a person and you should do what you feel is right for yourself.

All the best,

Hey!

I agree with you that it’s very unfair on you for her to treat you like that. Perhaps she’s not aware that her words and tone are offending you. If she does bring it up again, don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself and let her know how she is contradicting herself. You don’t have to get angry, try and stay calm and explain the situation to her.

She also definitely shouldn’t be treating you like that just because you don’t understand something that she does. Again, explain to her how you are feeling and hopefully she’ll realise the weight of her words. However, if she continues to belittle you, don’t be afraid to distance yourself from her because friends are supposed to support you, not bring you down.

Love,

Hi there!

If trying to strike up a conversation with you, it’s most likely that he also wants to be friends with you. I’m not sure how well you know him, but don’t be afraid to talk to him and find out more about him, that way you can find something that you may have in common. If you want to change up things in your life, maybe try something you haven’t done before so you can have more things to talk about. Please keep in mind that you shouldn’t have to feel like changing your whole self to please others, be you and people will naturally gravitate towards you. If you’re stuck on on conversation starters, just remember the acronym FORM which helps with continuing a conversation. It stands for family, occupation, recreation and motivation.

Love,