People who want to be welcomed into a cause with understanding and care and multitudes of explanations don't actually want to support us at all. Believe in our cause regardless of whether we are nice to you or not, and then we will believe that you are not an entitled little shit who is here to waste our time.
And if you think that we owe you our time and our explanations and our niceness, then fucking think again, because we don't. I am fucking sick of being nice. I am fucking sick of being a doormat, of falling over myself correcting you, trying to just make you understand. If you won't try, if you are affected by my niceness levels, then you have missed the point so enormously that anything I do could never allow you to understand.
And when we stop being nice, you start to hate us. And even when we are nice you mock us, and infantilise us, or argue something that forces us to accept your cause. I have thought long and hard about sexism, to say that one gender is oppressed is not something I say on a whim. Why must you have so little respect for what feminists say? Why must you try and silence us and convince us of our wrongness? Are we not allowed to vocally oppose you, is that so unacceptable and intolerable? We will have our voice, and we will not modify a fucking thing about it for you, because if you can only respect us when we are being nice, then you don't really respect us at all, and we do not owe you jack-shit.