Hey, I'm relatively new to getting massages, I've had 4 so far & the first 3 I kept my boxers on. My last I was totally nude, and seeing as I was getting a neck/shoulders/back/back & front of legs massage, I was a little apprehensive because I wasn't sure how my therapist would react if I became aroused. Especially when I had to turn over! Do you get clients who become visibly aroused while your working on them? If so, do you take it as a compliment? Please keep this private. T
Hi there. I know you asked me to keep this private, but I think it’s an important question for other people to see the answer to, so I’m replying publicly. Also, since you sent it to me from an 18+ only porn blog, I’m not 100% clear on your motivations. (It’s a nice blog, I’m not dissing it. I’m just sayin’.)Anyway! This is a very common concern for people who are new to getting massages. Don’t worry about it too much. First of all, it’s relatively rare for clients to get aroused during a massage, because it’s a pretty physically relaxing experience and as therapists we work hard to create a safe, comfortable, nurturing, non-sexual feeling environment. Not super conducive to getting turned on. Emotionally speaking, a professional massage is less like getting a backrub from your girlfriend and more like getting a backrub from your mom. (Or your doctor. Depending on your relationship with your mom, and your relationship with your doctor.) That being said, erections are a normal bodily function and, just like farting or snoring, they sometimes happen during a massage. As a person with a penis, I’m sure you know that erections aren’t always a response to something erotic. Sometimes they just happen at random and, even if they are related to arousal, they don’t automatically mean that the person is thinking about or wants sex. Massage therapy isn’t sexual for me, and I don’t assume that an erection in that context is sexual for my client either. So, no, I don’t “take it as a compliment”; a client’s erection isn’t about me personally any more than their farting or snoring is. If someone I’m working on gets an erection, as long as they don’t say or do anything inappropriate or try to sexualize the situation, my tendency is to politely ignore it the same way I would politely ignore any other bodily function that happens on my table. Other therapists may have other policies, depending on their personal comfort level. But farting, snoring, coughing, sneezing, tummy rumbles, runny noses, dandruff, eye goo, menstrual spotting, crying, drooling, leaking breast milk, lost eyelashes, erections, belly-button lint, and toe jam are all just parts of having a human body, as far as I’m concerned. My job is to help my clients feel more comfortable in their bodies; for me that means not assuming that erections are sexual and not treating them like a big deal either way.
